Doubt about marriage.

Take it from me... I'm divorced because I thought those doubts would go away. But in fact, they don't. All the things you worry about get worse.

I was being sarcastic. The answer to this is obvious to me

Cut out and go home, its alot better to do it now than try and cut out once youre married. If its meant to be youll come back together

I'm sorry, this just sucks. it's easy to say "end it" but I'm sure it's not that easy when you're he one in the relationship. Are the doubts and stress only from wedding planning? As someone who has lived in other countries where I don't speak the language, I know it can be frustrating to do anything at times, let alone plan a wedding! But if the doubts stemmed from before then there is nothing wrong with pausing and taking some time to think about it more, as hard as that might be. You still have your whole lives to get married if you want! But only you two will know what's best for you! Sending good thoughts your way.

Don't do it! You should have no doubts. All that fighting is not healthy. Work on the relationship before you get married. If you are going to be together forever then it doesn't matter if you wait a little longer. Get healthy before you make a legal commitment.

I had doubts the first time around but did it anyways. We lasted 7 years, I really wish I listened to my doubts. Divorce is expensive and I hated having to admit to everyone that I made a mistake. At least postpone for a while.

Always trust your intuition. I think you already know the answer. Friends & family were going to spend the $$ anyways, they'll be fine.

Here is an interesting article, it cites that the biggest problem that leads to divorce is communication, or lack there of. Jump ship, you're not even married yet and you can't communicate with your FH.

http://www.prnewswire.com/news-releases/want-your-marriage-to-last-top-relationship-experts-share-insights-into-avoiding-divorce-and-reveal-the-most-surprising-traits-of-successful-couples-232358131.html

It sounds like it's time to move on. Or postpone the wedding and seek counseling. Personally, I would just move on if you're not even upset when he expresses doubt.

I am so sad for you. This must be heart wrenching and I cannot even imagine your pain. My rule has aways been...if I am ambivalent, I am not ready to make a decision. It seems there is always a 'defining moment' that cements one direction or the other. At THAT point, I KNOW. And so will you. And counseling is ALWAYS a good idea and postponement is never a bad idea.

My heart breaks for you. And there is no one person who knows what you should do. It is in your heart.

Normally I'd say postpone and talk about how it can be tough to change cultures especially when you don't know the language..It places a lot of potential strain on the relationship..however it sounds like you don't really want to be with him at all. At the very least postpone..sounds like you want to end it though..How long have you been dating? did you move to S. America for him or were you there for another reason? But it sounds like also your FH doesn't want to marry you..bringing up about having doubts should be crushing to the other person..but you aren't crushed..there is your answer. Go with your gut.

I dont think your relationship is over. Wedding planning is stressful!! Talk with him about how he actually feels about ending your relationship. I'd say postpone until you figure things out, your family will understand. Best of luck!

I'm with KatieM. My first marriage I was not really in love with my husband but he was the first man outside of my dad and brother who loved me so much and I had gone too far I felt to cancel (out of embarassment). I did us both a dis-service not listening to my inner voice. We wasted so much time together. It didn't turn out badly but it didn't turn out good either. I wish I had cancelled. If you are having any doubt, at least postpone.