Savvy September 2017

Don't want bridesmaids

Nicole, on September 18, 2016 at 7:40 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 22
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Does anyone else feel that they don't want bridesmaids? My FH wants groomsmen (about 4) because he has grown up with a close group of guys since childhood. I only have a handful of semi-close girlfriends and they are scattered throughout the country and don't know each other at all. I also feel like all the traditions that go along with having a wedding party (i.e. bachelor/bachelorette parties) are so cheesy and unnecessary. Im not having a bridal shower. In addition, having a bridal party is expensive. Not sure what to think and have to make decisions soon. Thoughts?


  • Going to the chapel
    Master July 2017
    Going to the chapel ·

    There's no need to have a wedding party. Would your FH be OK without groomsmen? If not, it would look a little strange to have four groomsmen standing next to him and no one standing next to you. Perhaps you could find other wedding things for one or two of the men to do, such as a reading.

  • AyEmVee
    VIP May 2017
    AyEmVee ·

    I'm not having one either. FH has 8 brothers and I don't have nearly enough girls to pair them off with (plus, he doesn't want to have to choose). We ended up deciding to have each of his brothers with their long-term gfs/wives/kids walk down as a family unit, followed by my brother escorting my mom and then me and my dad. I know these guys aren't necessarily his brothers, but you could have them and their S.O.s walk down or you guys could just decide to go the strictly family route. You do have options though! Hope that helps!

  • T
    Savvy October 2017
    Tiffany ·

    I'm only having my sister stand up with me. We where in the same boat but I talked him into just having 1 person atand with us. That also saved money for our receiption and honey moon

  • MNA
    Master April 2018
    MNA ·

    DF will probably have his brother as Best Man, but I'm not planning on a MOH or bridesmaids. Not a big deal to me.

  • Sandra M.
    Super October 2016
    Sandra M. ·

    We aren't having a bridal party, and neither did my brother and his wife!

  • Lyla
    Savvy April 2017
    Lyla ·

    We aren't having a bridal party. We are trying to have a small wedding and if we had a bridal party no one would be in the seats!

  • Erin381
    Master September 2016
    Erin381 ·

    We didn't do one - and we are in a similar state. FuckingH bought his close guy friends matching ties - they wore whatever they wanted with them. It worked fine

  • Alicia
    Super November 2016
    Alicia ·

    I'm not having one. My 6 year old son is my FH'S best man, there's Noone standing on my side. I've been in 13 weddings and just decided that bridesmaids would complicate things. I wanted to keep it simple, and not hurt anyone's feelings. Anyways, I'll pass my bouquet off to my sister that will be sitting on the front bench at ceremony! Do what makes you happy. It's totally ok to not have bridesmaids. And if you FH has friends he has to have...you're allowed to have uneven sides.

  • jenifer
    Devoted October 2016
    jenifer ·

    Best decision I made was not having one

  • Shay & Rome
    Dedicated October 2017
    Shay & Rome ·

    We aren't having a bridal party either, just our son and daughter.

  • NowASeptMrs
    Master September 2015
    NowASeptMrs ·

    @notthaterin... Wow tell us how you really feel your FH hahahahaha

  • Celia Milton
    July 2019
    Celia Milton ·

    Lots of my couples have no BP. Less stress, money and BS.

  • kai
    Devoted October 2016
    kai ·

    I didn't want bridesmaids and FH had like 6 guys he wanted to ask. My sister and FSIL decided they would be bridesmaids and FH ended up only asking his brother and old friend. I am not requiring my bridesmaids to do anything, they can wear whatever they want, I didn't have a shower or anything (I didn't want one). You don't have to have a bridal party and sides do not have to be even. This is totally one of those things that you get to do whatever you want. Same goes for you FH.

  • kbb
    VIP October 2016
    kbb ·

    No bridal party here. Best decision I've made

  • Ayesha
    Super October 2016
    Ayesha ·

    I wish I had made this decision. I have 9 bridesmaids only because my FH HAD to have 9 guys. I love each of the girls dearly and we are close, but I had this awesome idea of just having us up front and no BP, allowing everyone to not spend money on dresses or renting tuxes. I hate wasting money. While they will look good, they're never going to wear this stuff again.

  • Stephannie
    Super December 2017
    Stephannie ·

    We are having only a MOH & BM. No ring bearer, flower girl or any other BP. I have been a bridesmaid 5 different times and truthfully, i enjoy weddings more as a guest. Our friends are still involved in other wedding related activities but we both don't necessarily love the "pageantry" of weddings. Not all of our family members agreed with us, but at the end of the day we are doing what we want to do.

  • SenoraG
    Super July 2017
    SenoraG ·

    I'm not having a bridal party either. It seems like such a hassle to me. Lol

  • MrsMelissaP
    VIP January 2017
    MrsMelissaP ·

    I didn't want a bridal party and that's exactly what we are doing. It's the best way to go IMO. I've had bad luck with previous weddings and I didn't want the drama. I have some close friends who will be with me when I get ready but other than that, all the attention will be on me.

  • Lynn
    Expert September 2017
    Lynn ·

    Not having one. Much simpler.

  • EarlieCat
    Super December 2016
    EarlieCat ·

    No bridesmaids for me..however, FH is having his dad be his best man. Also, no flower girl or ring bearer, either. So much easier.

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