Don't let plus one's be in your pictures

I mean so what is the plan with the plus one's are you just going to push them to the side and take pictures of the person you invited? I mean that seems kind of rude. The plus one is at the wedding to make the person you invited feel comfortable while they are sharing in your day. How about you have a no plus one policy as to not offend anyone. I mean that's just my take, but whatever you decide I'm sure it will be perfect for your wedding

I was a "plus one" at a wedding. I hardly knew the bride and groom. Now, my FH, who invited me to that wedding, and that couple are pretty close. I had a wonderful time even though I didn't know them. The couple went around taking pictures with everyone and I would have felt bad to have been excluded.

I have no problem with them being in the regular picture and I never meant that at all. I just thought it was interesting. With my FSIL this girl was actually in all of the posed photos taken of the grooms side of the family. Not just like he pictures from the reception.

The photographer can say, OK, now just the bride's siblings. Now, just the groom's parents & grandparents.

And like Sami said, put the extras on the ends so they can be cropped out!

Oh this is such good advise.

My FH's sister got married about 6 years ago and at the time FH was with his gf for 8 years so she was part of the family pictures. They broke up like a year later and now the only family picture he has from his sisters wedding his ex is standing with him. I mean we would like to put it up and by no means am I stopping him (I understand how important family is) but he feels he shouldent considering the situation. So I let him decide.

But it does suck when you have a beautiful family picture and that one person in now longer part of your circle!

I never really thought about this but I will probably just take pictures with and without - I mean it's not technically rude to take pics without them at least not to me...everybody has been to a wedding and you usually don't see plus ones in the photo unless it's a family photo or something....we'll see how my FH cousin handles this because FH is in their wedding and obviously I'm not...

My SIL's wedding was 2 years ago and FH was with his girlfriend of 8 years at the time, they broke up a couple months after the wedding but now she is in ALL of the family photos and even his parents are annoyed by it. She took all the family group shots from SIL's wedding down so that she won't offend me. I didn't ask this of her or comment on it ever (but secretly I love it! haha)

I just plan on getting a variety of family photos. So there will be small groups and larger groups etc. I'm not too worried about it, there will be photos with people who will last and ones with people who won't last, its pretty unavoidable. Just get a good mix of photos.

Thanks for posting this topic. It is def food for thought.

Like the others, it should be done on a case by case basis. Some plus ones may not even want to be in a family pic. I had been dating DH 6 months when his son was married. I attended the wedding, but refused to be in the pics. I felt funny. Every day, I look at an "M Family" picture in which I am not there. No biggie. : )

I haven't read the rest of the posts, but I agree. My FH's family actually does what they call 'divorce pictures' at every family gathering. They get pictures without significant others and spouses for this very reason. They also take pictures with these people, but I think it's very wise to exclude non-blood related family members from select photos.