Donations instead of gifts

If you mean a donation to charity, then of course it's ok. If by "donation" you really mean monetary gift to yourselves from non-existent guests, then it's not okay to ask. If you're eloping in Vegas and you'll have no guests, who do you expect to get presents from and how do you plan to tell them about your gift web site?

No. No. And no.

Bluntly put, you only have the wedding YOU & FH can afford. Unless your family/friends volunteer to fund your wedding, you do not I repeat DO NOT ask them to fund it for you. This is begging, it's rude, TACKY yes I said the nasty T word. Someone flag me... Seriously, if you are looking for less rude ways to get money out of people, have a very tiny registry with like one or 2 small priced things. People will get the hint that, and in the case of little/no registry, a good guest will put cash in a card. But it is never acceptable to ask for donations to pay for your wedding. You want a wedding, you pay for it yourself.

To make my harsh response less harsh, remember this is about you getting married, which lasts the rest of your lives. The wedding is a day, do not go broke affording it. Many a couple has gone the JOP road, b/c all in all, money or lack thereof, should not stop you from marrying the love of your life.

Asking for money is still considered taboo, but heres some cute ways of saying it http://www.printsonalities.com/category/archives/resources/wedding-invitation-wordings/in-lieu-of-gifts-wordings

We are doing a honeyfund account, where people can do paypal donations for activities on our honeymoon, heres the link to mine, its silly I know, some people do practical ones like amish furniture= 50 gift slots at 10$ per gift. Then you get the paypal money, they keep 3% http://www.honeyfund.com/wedding/anaelchris

No. It is not OK to ask for gifts from people you are not inviting to your wedding. If you don't have anything you need, if anyone asks you just say you are saving for (house, honeymoon...)

I don't think having a gofundme donation site is appropriate. Since you won't have any guests, it's pretty presumptuous to assume anyone will be buying wedding gifts. Not that some people won't, and you may very well receive gifts regardless, but, requesting them from people who aren't even invited isn't ok in my book.

I'd probably say no given that they will not be at your wedding

Donations are for charities. If people decide THEY want to gift you for getting married, you accept whatever they give. Particularly because you aren't inviting anyone to the wedding.

The best I would give to a couple that eloped without me there is a drink at the bar.

If nobody is coming to your wedding then all you need to pay for is the license and the pastor...can you not afford those things?

Absolutely not, especially if you're not inviting any guests.

Nope! if you can't afford a wedding you get married at a courthouse.

I don't think it's even about affording the wedding, it's just about gifts. Which, honestly, makes it even worse.

And also, why list your GoFundMe here? I promise you, no one is donating to you when they have their own weddings (with guests, automatically making it more expensive than yours) to pay for.

Edited because I misread this whole post.

This sounds almost as rude as that purple haired chicks comment, IMO. Sorry

Edited because someone changed their post :-)

I'll just be here

If you can't afford to get yourself to vegas, pay for the license and pay for your hotels then you shouldn't be doing it yet. You can't really ask for money for a wedding someone will never see.

I've seen people do this.. so I know it's been done before, and possibly their friends and family did not rake them over the coals for it. I recently had some acquaintances use a GoFundMe to help with costs for an unexpected move they had to do, and another asking for help regarding health care expenses. Their communities were happy to help contribute, even if it didn't cover the entirety of their expenses.

But, as you can see, the general response you're going to get here, is that it's tacky and impolite to ask people for money to fund your wedding. The best idea is to only have the wedding you can afford.

If you want to get married, but can't afford it, do a court-house wedding and then save-up for a honeymoon to Vegas, or something like that.

Is it creepy that I hooked up with a guy that looks just like that popcorn dude? I want to do a side by side so bad

No, it is not ok to ask for cash gifts.

If someone asks you if you have a registry, than you can say no, and hope people will write a check. But you don't ask for money, and you don't put registries on invitations.

And please don't use the word 'donation'. Donations are what you give to a charity, as in has 501(c)(3) tax exempt status.

BAHAHAHA AMY. <3

@Amy, I did, and I noticed nothing has been raised in 26 days... wonder why?