Dollar dance ??

I've never heard of the money being pinned or shoved down a dress. I've only seen people put money in a bowl or whatever, then usually get a jello shot or candy bar and then dance with the bride or groom. And you don't HAVE to dance with them, it's your choice.

My family is Italian and Polish and his family is Italian, it has been done at every wedding on my side but has never been done at a wedding on his side. He is not comfortable with it, neither am I. My mom wants us to do it, we will probably end up not doing it.

I think it's tacky and tasteless. (and apparently so do most people based on the responses)

Why should someone have to pay to get time with you or dance with you?

Tradition or not, it's gross.

Forgetting for a sec about it being tacky and trashy (it is), I have been to wedding where they did it. It completely stopped the flow of the reception. Lots of people danced before it and most people left immediately afterwards. It was kinda bizarre. The reception never picked up steam again.

Please don't

When my cousin did it at her wedding it was just awkward. Definitely not something I'd recommend.

I wouldn't pay for sex, why would I pay to dance with someone?

Imo I don't think they are trashy, that is just silly. It's apart of my culture and every family wedding I have been to has done it. To me the dollar dance has always been a fun way to interact with you guests as they pin money on your attire before a short dance with the bride and/or groom. All the upgrades to this dollar dance (MOH collecting the money, apron, not actually pinning money on the couple, etc) I have never witnessed. Despite it being a culture thing, we decided not to do it.

Btw a couple does not make a ton of money off the dollar dance, that is also silly. It's called a dollar dance, maybe half the guest partake, which does not equal a ton of cash. Most couples do it for cultural reasons, not a trashy way to make money.

I don't care if it's tradition, I hate dollar dances. No, no, no.

I'll dance with you for a dollar. Give me more & I'll dance a little longer. Lol

I feel a big no on this one. Culture, tradition, money begging etc, doesn't matter in my book.

@Richard. It's crazy and rude that some people think it's ok to call a "tradition" as tacky and trashy and all the other names people have mentioned on this post. How do you not see that as completely rude to someone's culture is beyond me... Oh, and you used the word "HAS" to pay in order to dance with myself or my FH. If you truly read my prior post I never said my guest had to do anything. THEY meaning my family choose to give money in an apron (older generation), participate or give well wishes. Again, people are sooooooo quick to judge and can be so ignorant. I've been to several different culture wedding and I thought they were neat, different and very interesting and got my support in every way. If it is NOT your culture or tradition then yes I agree that it is rude, tacky etc...

@Christina I agree with you wholeheartedly!

I've seen it at all the Polish weddings I've gone to (I'm Polish) but I'm not doing it. I don't like the reasoning that it's a good way to spend time with guests. I'm hosting. It's my job as a host to spend a little time with each guest without them having to pin a $1 to my dress.

@Richard. Are you really comparing what happened in Charlottesville to a traditional WEDDING apron/dollar dance with their own family? Come on...REALLY? Everyone is entitled to their opinion and if you or anyone else don't think an apron /dollar dance is appropriate then HEY who am I to judge. Don't have one at your wedding. It is that simple. But, when people start bashing and making jokes about others family traditions/ culture weddings then that's immature and rude. Most guest you invite should be their to support and celebrate your marriage. Otherwise, if they don't then they would decline or at least I would hope so.

@Richard It's no where near that deep.

Who determines what is culturally competent or not? You? WW? No, neither. It doesn't matter if you're Polish and you think the money dance is disgusting or if you're Polish and you cherish it. That doesn't change the culture and the traditions that come with it. No one likes traditions these days but in some places and to some people, tradition is still a thing! More people should be conscious that what they think is not necessarily what everyone thinks or should think. Whether you think the celebration or anything that represents it is tacky or not isn't what makes it the culture.

You don't want to do it or you don't like it? Fine. I was actually confused about your stripper comment, didn't know what your argument was there because I love strippers

For FH's family, this is a Filipino wedding tradition. The money is pinned to the wedding dress or groom's suit and represents wishing good fortune being "rained" upon the bride and groom. It's the meaning behind the tradition that is what's important, not how much money you are getting from your guests. Additionally, guests are not required to participate in the tradition!

OP, if this is a part of yours or your husband's culture, go ahead and decide if you want to do it; but like what others have said, if you are doing it for the wrong reasons, I would highly recommend against doing it. People at your wedding may be confused if it's not part of your culture and it may become awkward if you're just standing there.

Jameena, then love strippers. I don't even know what to say in response to that.

I refuse to do an awkward dance to spend time with family. Dancing for money, hiesnrly reminds me of an exotic dancer. I'm not downing dollar dances that are culturally done. I'm saying, the asking for money by doing awkward dance isn't ok. There's been plenty of comments from users that have stated how awkward it is as a guest. But apparently the comfort of your guests doesn't matter to you.

I understand traditions, I also understand my guests comfort is priority.