Dollar Dance, Tackey or Tradition? Tacky Tradition?

Don't do it.

Tacky.

I've never seen one and I'm 30. My mother saw only one, 35+ years ago (Polish bride, Greek groom).

Feel free to "break the mold."

Skip it!! Especially since it is not an important tradition to you!

I've still never seen a dollar dance in over 30 weddings!

Why would anyone miss it? Nobody leaves a wedding thinking, "you know what would have made that experience perfect...if someone had charged me a dollar for it."

No.

WOW, surprised this is not as common as I thought. Must be a Pittsburgh thing, along with the cookie table. Pittsburgh has alot of polish, italian, german ancestry so maybe it's just tradition there.

Tacky!

Skip that noise!

Tacky!

So weird. i've never seen one. i think it is a regional or cultural thing though.

It's a Filipino tradition so my MIL and FIL asked the DJ to do it and were disappointed to learn that I had already told the DJ that I wouldn't be doing it. I know the rest of H's family was disappointed too but dollar dances just make me so uncomfortable.

Unless it's cultural...

Personally, I hate it.

I went to a Polish wedding once and they didn't do it, so just because it's cultural doesn't mean you have to do it if you don't want to!

And by Polish, I mean every other song the DJ played was in Polish and he announced everything in English AND Polish. And all the food was Polish. It was a first for both FH and me, but still fun! Nobody had to open their wallets

Oh my gosh...I just pissed off my FMIL with this exact conversation. She was heartbroken that I didn't want to do it. She's from outside Pittsburgh. I'm not doing it.

Thinking of maybe having a "Bride Dance" instead, same idea but no charge. Although we aren't having a dj so how am I gonna communicare that? Maybe it is best just to forgo.

It doesn't have to be "A THING." Just dance with your guests throughout the night. Bingo. Nothing to try to communicate.

@Kiera.... I'm from Pittsburgh too and have gone back & forth with my FH about the dollar dance. He wants one...I'm of the opinion that I couldn't care either way but both my mother and grandmother (who never says anything bad) both said its tacky. so we are not having one out of respect for my grandmother& mother

I assume anybody that wants to dance with me on 9/3, they will ask. And I will accept their offers...for free!

ETA: words

I would forgo the "bride dance" if you're skipping the "money dance". If it's culturally accepted and expected by your guests, they will be confused when you refuse their money.

I also won't call it tacky because it is cultural. I think it would be tacky of me to say someone else's culture is tacky - just because it's different from mine. I know that's not what you meant, but those are my reservations regarding that question.

My understanding of the tradition is that guests want to provide a financial gift to couples so they can start their marriage on a strong financial foot. I'll have to Google why it's done via a dance rather than just putting money in an envelope - but my guess is the outward celebration of it all.