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Kiera
Expert September 2017

Dollar Dance, Tackey or Tradition? Tacky Tradition?

Kiera, on July 11, 2017 at 3:45 PM

Posted in Planning 47

I don't really feel one way or the other but starting to worry people will expect it and be disappointed. They can be fun. Every wedding I've ever been to has done this but I've made it clear this is a very nontraditional wedding. I also don't want people to think we are money hungry b/c we aren't....

I don't really feel one way or the other but starting to worry people will expect it and be disappointed. They can be fun. Every wedding I've ever been to has done this but I've made it clear this is a very nontraditional wedding. I also don't want people to think we are money hungry b/c we aren't. We haven't registered for gifts or a honeyfund. I'm more concerned about them being there than anything else. Its a DW them spending the money to come to the wedding is more than enough. If I could afford to I would fly them all down for the weekend AND cover the hotel.

Im of the opinion that i you want to dance with the bride ask her to dance. I dont know why its necessary to wait in line and pay a dollar, what is this disneyland?

Thoughts? Suggestions?

47 Comments

  • Mrsbdg
    Champion August 2017
    Mrsbdg ·
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    A wedding I went to recently had a $5 dance to help the couple afford their honeymoon. I wanted to gag. They are always tacky :-(

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  • kirackle
    Super September 2017
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    @Klaudia

    You are absolutely correct. This is not a tradition that is based on continuing the family's traditions from their home country but rather a result of being poor immigrants where a new couple truly needed every dollar they received. That is why posters attribute it to both Hispanic and Polish culture but can't quite say why. I have been attacked on here before, but regardless I will continue to say that no matter a person's family practice to have dollar dances, they are in no way a cultural practice. There is no record of them existing before the 1850s, and they are all traced to immigrant communities in North America. If I am wrong, please post academic links refuting this. Many practices from that time are outdated and no longer needed; this is one of them. Women are not required to wear corsets or skirts at all times because what's acceptable to society evolves.

    @OP

    Just dance with your guests. Do not announce anything. If someone insists on giving you money, graciously take it and thank them. This will only be a thing if you make it one.

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  • Cassidy
    VIP October 2017
    Cassidy ·
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    Stop asking this question. We know how everyone feels

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  • Nonna T
    Master April 2014
    Nonna T ·
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    Blorp.

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  • N
    Master December 2016
    Nancy ·
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    Tacky. Skip it.

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  • Chantal
    Dedicated August 2018
    Chantal ·
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    My mom and mil want us to but I don't want to so I'm trying to talk my fiance out of it. I don't care for dancing in the 1st place but then to be forced to dance with random people is just crazy

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  • Susan
    VIP December 2017
    Susan ·
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    We're not doing one. However, I am mentally preparing myself to possibly be pelted with money during some of the traditional Greek dances, because that is very common and is meant to guarantee the couple good fortune and prosperity.

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