Dollar Dance Confusion!

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I think many of us would agree that it is hurtful and insulting when someone puts down your families traditions. In fact I think that is way more rude than if you disagree with an activity at the wedding. Walk away, don't participate, dance with the bride without paying.

I had to pay to walk in a room and see a bride!!! Was it odd to me? Yes because it was not my culture. However, I would never insult them due to their culture and tradition, even if it was a regional tradition and not a full blown tradition. We come from many walks of life with many traditions. There are traditions in cultures that involve spitting on the money then sticking it to the bride. I do not judge them or put them down when they are trying to share their culture or ask about others. This is the problem.

In Kelli's case it does become a bit racist when other remarks are thrown in there while insulting her cultures tradition in her personal case, not necessarily the tradition in general. I do not know the full story there so I can not comment fully. However, it sounds like the same person who put her down before has continued to do so in another thread which is what sparked her comment. Which, may be justified based on her particular situation.

View Quoted Comment That person was racist, no one has posted here has been racist. I am not racist. I would normally let this go but this is ridiculous.

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I have not said that you are racist. Unless I am mistaken I believe Kelli is referring to another who has acted racist to her and was only compounded when reading this post.

I am agreeing that I do not think putting down the tradition is racist, only rude to insult someone's cultural or regional tradition.

Kelli's situation is a different story.

Girl I LOVE that you made sure to add that you don’t want to know weather someone loves them or not! Too much on this website people try to convince someone that something they’re doing is wrong but it’s your day so who cares!!!!! I think you should decide on what vibes with your guests and wedding theme better, throwing the money over a dance sounds so fun though! Good luck!!

There is a huge difference between race and culture.
Race is defined as a group of people, culture is their traditions and beliefs.

All races are lovely, all traditions are not. For example, many cultures sacrificed humans for various reasons. It's generally up to the next generations to realize that their traditions and beliefs are wrong and damage their ability to mature as a civilization. While this is a drastic example, it proves that just because it's traditions are part of ones culture, it doesn't need to be observed.

View Quoted Comment True not all traditions have to observed. We are talking about money and some dancing here though. It’s a harmless tradition that seems to get bashed way too much. If I disagreed with it and attended a wedding I’d use it as the perfect excuse to use the restroom or grab a new drink.

It jusf seems extreme to put something down in a post asking to learn about others traditions!

I've never been to a wedding with a money dance, but it sounds fun! I love when weddings have something unique about them and aren't the standard cookie cutter princess etiquette weddings. I think a lot of wedding guest would love to pay $1 to dance with the bride or groom! It sounds fun and you get to have a special moment with them

No matter how hard you try on WW to ask for specific advice there are a group of people on here that will shove their etiquette opinions in your face....it's sad, but true. Honestly, just ignore them. They comment on everything to keep their rankings and bash other peoples weddings. I think they forget that weddings are a celebration of the couple starting their life together and they don't necessarily have to follow a "rule" book. The wedding should reflect them as a couple. Just do you, and have fun!

View Quoted Comment I know in certain cultures they throw money at the bride and groom or just bride as like a blessing. My friends dates a Nigerian and they didn't it at her SIL wedding

Never personally been to a wedding with one, but I have had FH's experience with one described to me.

Basically, the bride wears an apron with a huge pocket on the front, the guests put the money in the apron, dance with her for a little bit, then it's the next person's turn. This wedding took place in Indiana, but the family (and FH) are originally from Louisiana.