Dollar Dance Confusion!

I live in Canada and have NEVER seen or even heard of this!

The only wedding that I've been to that did this was in Texas. The BM and the MOH each held a cowboy boot to collect the money in and lines formed to dance with either the bride or the groom. And it was facilitated as a competition to see which on could earn the most money - kind of in a "winner take all" fashion. I think they said the bride would use the money on shoes and the groom would use it on Cowboys' tickets.

View Quoted Comment Nothing says celebrating a union of two lives like a competition for who gets to keep the money!

I am not from an area where this happens but it has been interesting to see these responses. I could never ask my guests for $ no matter what but I don't think it would be seen as tacky by the majority if you were hosting a mostly local wedding in some of these areas. I enjoyed reading about it.
That said, you can't tell people how to post. It is against CG's.

Sorry, but you can't control people's comments. You will get opinions. That's life. Don't want opinions and other comments, don't make a post. I used to not have a problem with dollar dances until a couple years ago. I felt disgusted when the DJ announced for guests to take out our wallets to pay for the couples honeymoon. Get on the dance floor and dance. Mind you, the wedding started 45 minutes late, was and hour and a half long ceremony, almost 2.5 hour cocktail hour with blasting music in August without a/c-so yes the the tipping point for my great dislike for dollar dances occurred that night. Then my MILs cousins wedding was just a money grab. Not enough seats for guests, not enough food-over half the guests didn't eat. Then they had the audacity to put on a dollar dance, and later tell everyone how much they made.

It is in my areas and families tradition to have a money dance-doesn't mean it needs to occur. Also, if it's just a fun way to dance with the couple, why the money now? Do it without the money. It is tacky. Tacky tacky

Also, read the CG's as you can not tell others how to post.

View Quoted Comment That's how my aunt and uncle did it back in 2001

This is very common for weddings i attend. I didn't know about them until i attended one and they have all been tasteful in my opinion. Its always a fast song, not slow like some have mentioned. Its only one song. Family members and friends get up and pin the money on the bride or bride/groom and dance with them. It doesn't throw off the reception because everyone is still dancing as they normally were. It is optional and generally seen as a good time. No one is forced or pressured. These weddings have also been properly hosted. I could see how some people's experience here could be bad or seen as tacky from weddings that were poorly hosted, however my experience hasn't been that way. As a guest amongst the crowds who attended, i didnt over hear anyone complaining because it's seen so much regardless if you participate or not. Im in Los Angeles by the way. I think everyone's opinion here simply stems from their own personal experiences. No one is wrong or right in my opinion.

Maybe then I am confused on the purpose of asking a question in a post. Isn't the purpose of a post to ask a question and get responses answering the original question?

The question stated I wanted to learn about the different types of dollar dances. Which is why I asked politely to keep the answers to that and not insulting those who do. I wanted to learn about all the different traditions people have, how they aren't all the same, and do so in a respectful manner without making anyone feel bad. It is like someone asking different ways to dye hair and people responding with how tacky it is to have fake hair color.

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I'm in Central Wisconsin and we do the same thing! I think that the energy of the MOH and BM can really make it fun since they determine how long each person dances. For example, I was at a wedding and the MOH's uncle went to dance with the bride but the MOH would have them switch basically the second they started dancing so the uncle had to keep paying to get his dance in!

View Quoted Comment You can't dictate the way a post will go. You don't own the forum 😂

Respectfully, I have never, ever seen this done at a wedding or any other event. And I hope I never do.

View Quoted Comment I would be scared of something happening to the dress if I got poked. Red blood on a white dress would make me cry!!!!

I have seen a dollar dance where the MOH wore a pocketed apron, and people gave the money to her before dancing with the bride, then we get in a circle and keep the groom out for a little while, like you explained. It was fun.

View Quoted Comment Also, I found it rude that you bolded certain areas of your text. Found it condescending, we aren't children.

View Quoted Comment If someone says something that you find insulting/breaking a CG, you can flag it. Otherwise, you can't tell people how to post.

Separately, asking your guests for money and having fake hair color are a little different... but that is just my two cents!

View Quoted Comment I found all of your posts pretty rude to be honest. You took unfortunate but personal experiences concerning dollar dances, formed a negative opinion about dollar dances and then made that opinion law. I think it's fine if you hate dollar dances but you just sound like you just haven't gotten over being poorly hosted by the two events you mentioned.

I've never been to a wedding with a dollar dance but it's been fun reading about all the different ways these are done.

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The point of that comparison was the way the question was answered. A person typically asks a question is to get a relevant answer. Not to have what they are asking about insulted. Had nothing to do with actual fake hair. Just a random comparison I was making lol

Not trying to tell anyone how to answer or post. Never expected to get jumped on for asking people to keep to the question as being a rule breaker. I guess I was just hoping to start a nice informative discussion to learn about dollar dances.

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Most people remember the bad parts of a wedding more than good if the bad outweighs the good. I love FI's BF but his wedding left a real bad taste in my mouth. It was on a Friday afternoon at a location about an hour and a half away from us, the cocktail hour went over but they stopped the food early, it was an expensive cash bar and the food was horrible.

Whereas a wedding we had gone to when we started dating is still one of the best we've been to. Great food, great entertainment and they treated us all great.

View Quoted Comment I don't think anyone is posting about dollar dances being tacky to insult you or anyone else that has them, just to warn you that it is pretty likely that your guests who aren't used to this (and maybe some that are!) may perceive it that way.

That is what I will never understand about this, or cash bar, or anything else that is a hot button issue on WW. I would be mortified if even one of my guests perceived it that way, and that alone would make it a complete dealbreaker for me and outweigh any cost savings or any amount of "fun" or "tradition" involved.

As far as the hair color, I just didn't agree with your comparison, that's all.