Dollar Dance Confusion!

View Quoted Comment I agree! But I also think it's important to not let bad experiences spread to completely unrelated ones. A bad experience at one wedding doesn't mean it will be the same bad experience at another wedding.

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I just don't understand the need to insult things on here. I have said it a ton of times the purpose was to learn the different types. Why the need for people to chime in that they personally don't like them when it was irrelevant to the actual question being asked? There is no purpose other than to take a jab.

I guess I could get a better example.

Q: What are some nice barn wedding venues in the area?

A: I went to a barn wedding once and it was really tacky. I would never have a barn wedding

I can't tell people how to post. I do not run or dictate the forum. I am not trying to tell anyone what opinion to have. I just wanted to learn about the different dollar dances. I am glad An that you did enjoy reading the different kinds!

View Quoted Comment Mexican too, it’s done during the family waltz. I don’t want a dollar dance but I do want to the family waltz so I guess I will have to have our emcee announce that they please not pin money on us. And also not have pins lol. Idk maybe by just not having pins, I won’t have to announce it 🤔

View Quoted Comment Lol that makes sense, I just won't provide any pins. I over think things, especially all this wedding stuff. I don't really want a dollar dance but my family insisted and from the day I announced my engagement my uncle's we're like "We have our dollars ready"!

View Quoted Comment I understand your point but people have strong opinions on things that are etiquette-related. Their comments aren't interfering with other people giving you the answers that you want. There are also a lot of people that just lurk on these forums that may be on the fence about doing something like this and could see some opinions/perspectives that they wouldn't otherwise have considered.

I still don't agree with your comparison FWIW...I think there are a lot fewer people that would have an issue with a barn wedding (that is hosted properly) than a dollar dance, and it is not such a hot-button issue on WW. It is more like saying that you are self-catering and want menu suggestions or that you are having a cash bar and want to know what to serve, which get responses that are unwanted by the OP all the time!

View Quoted Comment Lol yeah I’ve not yet seen one Mexican wedding that does not do it so I guess it’s very traditional. When I told my FH , he was horrified but I think he was more concerned about having his brand new suit pinned lol

I've only seen it at Filipino weddings. One of my college friends got married at 19, her parents insisted on the dollar dance. So they had this awkward slow dance where people safety pinned dollar bills to her dress and his suit. In her late 30's now, she says still shudders thinking about it. She said, doesn't matter if you are naked on a pole, or in a wedding dress, there is nothing romantic or classy about getting dollar bills thrown at you or stuffed in your clothing. I had to laugh.

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And on those questions if I disagreed with their choice I would be nice and either give suggestions of menu suggestions or be polite and say nothing at all moving on to the next poll. I would see no reason to insult their choice when they weren't asking for opinions on their choice. Just like you would feel awkward with one person perceiving your wedding a certain way if you did a dollar dance... I have the same feeling towards never purposely insulting someone's chose when they were not asking for opinions. I guess we will just disagree on this and it is fine.

We live in buffalo ny. I have attended many weddings and this is something that has never happened .

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That concerns personal safety versus opinion or etiquette. Safety overrides everything in any situation. It even breaks confidentiality in my settings.

I get that conversations evolve. I am clearly going to get no where with making my point on asking for information on other people's traditions.

I truly just like to learn about people's traditions and cultures and how things vary in areas. Especially when I realized that people are talking about different dollar dances. I only asked about not commenting on how you feel about them and posting informative information because I was not trying to bash anyone's tradition.

I went to a wedding once and you had to pay money to go in a room to see the bride. It was a very different tradition. I think it is fun to read about those things. So I want dot learn these without anyone having their feelings hurt when the contributed their to the conversation.

View Quoted Comment Lol yea my FH's tux is a rental so maybe it'll be a good idea to NOT pin money on it lol!

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I loved learning about money being pinned on. Thanks! I always assumed that the dollar dance was done the same way everywhere!

Dollar dances are actually pretty normal in my family; my mother's family is Romani, and an extra dollar or two given at the reception is just a token of good luck to "give the new wagon a push." Her family also immigrated to Pennsylvania and have lived in and around that area forever, where the Polish dollar dances were also pretty normal. I remember as a little girl putting a dollar in a pretty basket and dancing giggling that I was dancing with the bride, and Polka music. Oh lord, Polka music I've also seen it plenty where you pin the money to the bride's dress, but my fabric's so delicate that I'd probably have a heart attack if someone came at me with a pin! hahaha... I always just thought they were pretty harmless fun, and took the edge off the seriousness of everything - pay a dollar and dance to polka with your nan. Down here in the south where my FH is from, I told him about this and he looked at me like I had eight heads! Said he'd never heard of such a strange thing. All of my guests are from up north and will be expecting it, but all of his are from here and probably won't, so instead of dollar dance we're planning on a cookie table (other huge tradition from Pennsylvania)

View Quoted Comment You're welcome. I can't speak for all Mexicans but I'm pretty sure that's how we all do it lol. I wish I had a picture on me, of when my great grandma got married to show how it looks but I'm sure you get the point lol. Yeah, it's cool to see how everyone does the same thing, differently.

I think it's interesting to read about the different traditions, especially the Polish one since my mother's family's culture is similar (Slovak). But, I never saw or heard of a wedding dollar dance before I joined WW. My mom's family always plays a polka at weddings, but no money traditions are involved. We're from southeastern PA (Philly).

I do wonder though, if anyone ever gives fake money/Monopoly money to the guests to use so they experience the tradition without worrying about the money aspect of it.

I'm so glad you made it perfectly clear that you are not interested in knowing if a poster thinks they are tacky or not. While enjoy the wedding wire community overall some people can be a tad bit negative. I don't plan to have a dollar dance because it's not something I'm accustomed to at weddings but I don't frown upon anyone who may incorporate it into their wedding celebration. #differentstrokesfordifferentfolks.

What I learned when I was little, because this was a huge thing in our area, was that the dollar dance originated in Poland and Greece (everyone argues about which one stole it from the other). It's basically just a way to "shower" the bride and groom with money to take into their new life as husband and wife. It was a huge thing in the 80's-90's with so many families coming from those areas to the US. I've seen it done all of the ways described but most often they fill up an umbrella and dump it over their heads or pin the money. People might see it as rude but it's a cultural tradition so seems a little racist to be constantly putting other people's traditions down.

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So it is a Romani tradition as well? That is neat to know. I did not realize there were so many different origins of the dollar dance. I have an almost exact same memory with the same polka music playing as a kid!

Also, yay for cookie tables! Does anyone know if that is a tradition anywhere else other than PA?

View Quoted Comment Oh please... that is too much. I am 50% Polish and I have never heard of this tradition until WW. At best it is regional.

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To add onto this, my mother's family is French Canadian and FI's family is Portuguese. Both families do so but again we are from an area where it seems to be kinda common.