Does your in laws/FIL's still have pics of your FH with his Ex's?

My FIL's don't like his exes so they don't have any pics of him with them. I am the first one that they really liked.

But when I was telling a few people I know about this just to see what they thought they were shocked....I mean there is nothing I can do about it, its there house and they can do what they want..but im just wondering if other ladies on here have had same issue and what were your thoughts on it? Thanks

Have you asked your FH why the pictures are still up? Since it is their home there's really not much you can do but as soon as you get married I'd have replacements for them really quick!

Now pics with them and the kids I get but not with just them. I know its his parents home but why hasnt your FH requested that the pics be taken down? After my FH and his exfiance split his parents took the pics down immediantly. They were showing me pics in an albulm and there was one of her in it and FMIL kept saying sorry she didnt know it was there, she would get rid of it. I told her dont worry about it, Its ok. I wasnt upset. But not to go hanging it on the walll lol

Ask your FH what he thinks about it? See if he will maybe have them replace them with pics of yall?

I like what Brandie & Melissa said.

Do the In-Laws still have a good relationship with his ex? If the old wedding pictures & photos of them together with no children bothers you, you can politely ask them why they still have them up. You can also ask them to replace the old pictures with your new ones after your married. Yes, it is their house and they can and will do what they want but I'm sure the last thing they want to do is make you feel uncomfortable.

I asked him and he said he guessed it was because they have kids together...and I totally agree about the one with the kids being up..but the others like wedding ones and just general ones just seemed odd...hell they even showed me the wedding video!! lmao..I mean like I said they are good people but honestly I could have done without seeing the wedding video hehe.

I do hope they put some pics of him and I up..but I have this odd feeling that wont happen.

They showed you the wedding video???? Where they upset when your FH and his ex split up? Are they angry that the two of you are getting married? Having pictures up of the kids is one thing but still keeping wedding photos up and showing you the wedding video is crossing the line. Do they not understand how rude that is?

@Kimi- FIL's have a OK relationship with her..I mean they have known her since she was 16 and my FSIL and the EX wife use to be best friends....FIL's feel like him and her got married too young kinda thing ..but there is no drama and hate between them.

Um ya I wouldnt have wanted to see the video either. That must have been so uncomfortable and weird. I mean if you want to look at the postive then you know what NOT to do at your wedding now lol

I am sure they are great people but there are things that you just dont do and that was one of them

@Brandie- No they arent upset him and his Ex divorced..I mean its been over 10years since they divorced. He told me before he married her they his mom told him he didnt have to marry her (she said she was pregnant they got married then she found out she was NOT pregnant) As for them being happy we are getting married..I guess they are lol I mean honestly I think they are just like were adults and we can do what we want..they arent the kinda people that butt in (guess im lucky for that! lol) his mom had been talking to me about the wedding plans and stuff and I havent got a negative feeling really from her. However at the same time I feel like no one really cares about this wedding because he was married with a big wedding before...now him and I are doing small wedding..idk maybe im just being stupid. But yeah the wedding pics are one thing..the video was something that made me feel really weird. I dont think im anyone to tell them what to have or not have put up in their home but I do

Hope that they put pics of us up in the home.

That seems really strange they have the picture of just the two of them. If it really bugs you, maybe you could tell FH to tell them to take it down or change it to something else. Or if you are close, I would just tell them yourself.

I have seen pictures of my FH & his ex, but not hanging up on the wall. We look at them if we see them and laugh. You should give his parents a regular picture of the two of you the same size as their frame and tell them to replace it hahaha. That is what *I* would do, but I have a great relationship with his parents. They would get a kick out of it. =)

Um...I would be more concerned that FH doesn't seem all that bothered by it. If my mom had pics of me and an ex in her house I would have taken them down myself.

My FIL's like his ex before me..He was with her a few years but think at first they saw me as "the reason he left her". After when her true crazy side came out, that took care of them still wanting to talk to her lol.

My mom has pictures of me and my ex at her house and my husband does not have a problem with it. No matter what happened we have 2 kids together and he is still their father. It is kept up to honor what was a legitimate marriage and love between two people. I like that my kids know my family still honors that even though we are divorced.

Ew that's too wierd- FH needs to tell them to take that shit down. I can't fathom why they would show you the wedding video..sometimes in laws just like to twist the knife. My hubby once found an old pic from a school dance his mom had up- with his high school ex girlfriend, and he made her take it down. I of course could care less about a high school gf lol, but he was pissed! He said to his mom "Why would you want a pic of me up with anyone other than my wife, your daughter in law?" Maybe FH can explain it like that to them?

@Clare- I like the last part you said..makes sense. FH does think its odd but he just feels thats its because they share kids together...plus he also feels like they can have whatever pics they want up since its their house which I agree with.

Besides the 1 family pic (with kids) they have 3 (no kid pics) up in frames. I do like the idea of maybe giving them pics of us and maybe they will replace the pic's or at the very least put them up too! lol

Good point Noei! thanks

It's possible that they just forget their up there. If they have been on the wall over 10 years..they may just not even think about it.

@Mags- True...lol but the ones upstairs were shown to me by his mom..the ones downstairs I just seen on my own. She has also busted out the wedding book of pics. Idk maybe im reading too much into it...I do think its odd..know what I mean?