Does every guest get a plus 1?

This may very well NOT be proper, and I'm sure more people will respond with what is, but I'm not stressing over it. If I'm inviting families or groups of people that all know each other and are close friends, I'm not giving them a date if they're single. Serious couples and the wedding party are the exception. Those who are single but will know many others there, though, I'm cutting numbers that way. I'm close enough with all them that I was actually able to ask them if this was okay and mention we're trying to keep it intimate (150 is intimate???). Everyone was so touched I was even thoughtful enough to ask!

I have no idea what you are supposed to do but we gave every adult (18 and over) a plus 1 if they were single. It made our number a lot higher but since his family offered to pay for whatever mine won't I saw no problem with it. Some people set up rules like if you haven't been together a year you don't get a plus 1. Its totally up to you.

Our wedding is a mini-destination (his family and friends from VA; mine from MA we are getting married in NH) so most people were allowed to bring a guest. We did however use the limit of 21 or older. For example if we did a "and Family" invite those "family" members could not bring a date; but if we sent an individual invite to each person in that household we put "and guest" most of our "guests" are serious couples but since they are not engaged or living together we are using "guest" I hope that wasn't to confusing. I think the most important thing is to come up with a rule and stick to it. IE work guest- All singles; cousins - all 1; whatever you choose just stick to your guns. It is your day and your $$$.

Good Luck!

Fortunately we didn't have many singles but the rule I read was only long term relationships (you can decide what constitutes long term.. 6 months, year , engaged..etc) and singles that won't know many other people. So, in your son example, I wouldn't give him a 1 because he's traveling with his family.

It's really all up to you though. If your budget is tight and you're limiting the guest list, then that's fine..make strict rules that limit the number of 1s. Just make sure your rules are set and not willy nilly so that people don't get hurt or angry that so and so got to invite their 1 month old bf but they didn't, etc etc. Keep in mind though that no matter the limits you try to set, there will be some people that ignore whether they're given a guest or not!

WE nixed plus one unless they were in a comitted relationship and we met and or know of their significant other. We cut down the amount of the guest list A TON nixing plus ones and people we work with.

We are most likely doing plus 1 for mostly all singles. However, there are a couple families that will be invited as a family. If the invitation is going to multiple people in the household (like in one family, the kids still live at home but are in their early 20's) then it'll have a plus 1. I do have reservations about sending a plus 1 to FH's sister because she isn't in a serious relationship and will most likely bring a friend (girl) to the wedding but I also don't want to step on her toes. We butt heads a lot.

Anyway, Our wedding is also out of state (his family is coming from MI, mine is coming from several other states and MI, and Chicago--we live in Atlanta) so all our guests will probably have a plus 1 so that they can be comfortable. We'll see. We're in the VERY early stages of planning!

Typically the etiquette rules say that those in serious relationships (married, engaged, living together, or dating more than 6 months) get a 1 and also your out of town guests who won't know anyone else. It is also polite to give your wedding party a 1 (although I didn't give the single WP members a 1 unless they specifically asked)

Whoops I just noticed the plus symbol didn't come out so wherever it says 1 it should say "plus one"

We completely skipped plus ones. im just not writing it in there. i have a few people that will be bringing a guest that i am allowing. so instead of just saying plus one on the invite, im writing for example, : Natalia S.... and Ryan B...... Even though they dont live together, it still works cuz theyre a couple! I have a friend or two that asked to bring a date but I said no. I don't think they'll still be with that person by the time of the wedding, and I know they would bring someone else, if they had plus one on there. lol I can always change y mind later though. Still time

I am with Future Mrs.Schmidt. we did the same...

If I knew that someone was in a serious relationship or engaged to someone, I added a plus one, but if they weren't...they are not getting a plus one! Our numbers would be way too high!!

I have a large workplace but am close with alot of them so I decided that all of my work friends cannot bring dates to keep the guest list down. They are fine with it becuase they'll know alot of people anyway.

I'm giving a guest to everyone 18 . It isn't necessary if someone is single (if they are dating/engaged/married they need to be invited together), but it is a nice thing to do.

We are not giving any 1s except to one of FH's groomsmen who has been w/ his gf for 2 yrs now. i made it a note to let people know that there will be no dates bc of budget reasons. that will be specified (in some well-written, sophisticated way lol) on the invitation.

Im not give a plus 1 either, i have a lot of younger cousins, who are 18 19 who switch boyfriend girl friends weekly, they are getting "1 seat is reserved in your honor" i dont need the flavor of the week at my wedding.

I think you only need to give a plus 1 if they are in a serious relationship. Of course if you have money to give everyone a plus one some people do that too.

I cant afford everyone's plus one therefore it will not happen!

Its really up to you since you are paying. Plus you may know some of you guests won't bring anyone anyways so it would not make a difference.

I'm with yadayada, out-of-towners deserve a plus one too.

I am with Future Mrs.Schmidt too. we did the same... even out-of-towners.