Does anyone else feel stupid??

We really sorta guilty since it's not exactly money we've got lying around and the smarter bet would be to make it the start of a down payment on a house.

We've zero in the way of savings right now (thanks to trusting former friends/flatmates) and it's gonna take until the wedding to raise the cash we need.

BUT at the same time we've done everything we can to keep the costs down so that's how we justified the 2k we're going to end up spending (hopefully less) to ourselves.

That way, the wedding is out the way before FH really hits his career and THEN we can save for a house. There won't be the wedding sitting in the corner tempting us to save for that instead.

Although our budget is small compared to many others and we can afford to pay for it on our own withtout our parents, it is still a lot of sacrifice. The wedding is approaching so fast and with downpayments and deposits along the way, our total savings isn't where I thought it would be at this point.

However, it is the wedding we both wanted and that makes us happy.

I do feel guilty because I think it was a lot of money (not necessarily large in the grand scheme of weddings). I could have done a lot with the money but I think it was more or less worth it because I had a blast and it was beautiful. Hopefully I won't care in a few years when I put some distance between myself and all the bills that show how much I paid, haha!

I can't justify my budget anymore plus it seems that FH is decreasing it everyday so I guess that's our way of handling it.

I had a hard time with this at and some times still do. But I NEVER do things for me. This is a party I have wanted for a long time, parties just are not cheap. Heck for my son's bday present and food added up to 200 dollars for 20 people to attend 6 of those 20 was US lol. Nothing is cheap these days lol. But I know I would regret not having the whole shabang. You live once.

We managed to keep everything under $5k. There's not a whole lot you can get for $5k so there's no regrets. But if there ever was a day where I would splurge, this would be it.

My parents are paying for 90% of the wedding...I am very cheap lol...I try my best to enter any money contests in hopes I win big...

I only felt stupid spending money on it closer to the date because of the drama with my family being inconsiderate and unsupportive, they end up not even attending the a-holes. Still haven't sent as much as a text with a congrats. Anyways back to your question.

We knew our budget from lilke 4 eyars ago and knowing that every year it went up we knew that we would be spending a pretty penny. I kept adding more things that were "needed" and it made me more and more guilty about spending the money instead of towards other things we needed but chose to wait on.

I have to say everything i needed was just to make the day even better. It was well worth all the money we spent and the day was absolutely perfect and magical and honestly the best experience of my life. That's how it is justified. We have everybody tell us that they had so much fun and day of everybody was raving about the decor that i had put so much thought into which was more justification that we did it right.

We spent a lot of money on our venue, menu, and several other things. But we both wanted a beautiful celebration. Sure, the money could have been spent elsewhere, but neither one of us broke the bank doing it.

I loved every bit of our ceremony and reception. I feel it was totally worth the money spent. We didn't get lots of gifts or money or anything, but we didn't have the celebration to "rack up" or break even. We wanted our family and close friends to share the love we have for one another.

*Justified*

I know you guys are right, I think I was just having a moment. My florist estimate came back at over $5,000 so I was a little overwhelmed when I started adding everything up. We live in a relatively small town so we dont have that many options so the nice vendors we do have to choose from can pretty much set their price & not worry about competition.

I am feeling much better though! It will be a very special day & I know it will be beautiful & totally worth it! I am just going to concentrate on how blessed I am. If this is the only thing thats got me stressed then I am lucky!

I don't feel stupid... but I am surprised. I am spending more on some things than I originally hoped to or planned to, but I love them so I'm justifying that it's worth it to me. My veil was one of these things. I thought it was crazy to spend a lot of money on one, but I fell in love with one that was $223. I didn't want to spend more than $100 originally. But I love it and feel like beautiful with it on... so it was worth it for me.

I went over my original budget by about 6,000, and I realized my original budget had to change over the course of the year. At times, I did feel stupid because I'd have a big down payment for my house right now if we hadn't had our wedding, but that doesn't mean I regret it. We've had to put ourselves through college, we had to save over the year engagement to pay for the wedding, and now we just have to save up again. For me, it's just the way it is and has been. Some may say I wasted money (my older brother wouldn't shut up about it, actually), but if I had to do it all over again, I'd have done everything the same way. It was the best day of my life, and I no longer feel stupid. I'd had a few freak out moments, but dh talked me through them each time by reminding me we could afford it.

That's like saying well, I don't want to waste energy walking, because I will want to run some day. Take things one thing at a time.

Sometimes I feel stupid but for the opposite reason....I could have a ridiculously high budget with my parents help but I prefered to do things my way and save as much as possible. Even though this is (hopefully) a once in a lifetime event I cant imagine spending what could be a new house for 1 night.

I don't feel stupid but It does annoy me how much we have ended up spending. although we are somewhat within budget its still annoying. so much money that could have gone to other things. But its worth it. we only get ONE marriage and wedding so I wanna look back and smile. At least I am not going broke yet... still doing ok

We are spending a lot of money and I know it will be one hell of a party! We are not breaking the bank but I feel confident I am getting the wedding I always dreamed of. My mom said something to me that took my breath away. She said "Everyone gets a big wedding!" She is delusional, but means well. People host what they can afford and make it beautiful. I didn't ask for my wedding to be paid for, it was a gift and I feel blessed everyday.

Honestly, I just didn't know where to cut. We invited 312, and with a wedding that size, you have to spend a little. I guess I felt like we had no choice! Dinner and drinks alone are $7,000.

I feel the money was justified, but another part of me looks at my student loan debt and think that that money could have paid nearly half of it or could have been a major stepping stone to getting our future house. But, I have the memories from it.

I wanted to elope originally, but my husband thought that since I was the first out of my friends to get married that I'd regret it once I went through all my friends' weddings and didn't get those memories. He's probably right. He's the last out of his friends to get married.

Our budget has gone up multiple times now. If I actually sat down and put it all together as one number I would probably stress about it. The little things add up quickly. I wanted something small but the FH has a huge family and he is an only child so he wanted something nice that they could all be a part of. I just stopped thinking about the money.

How do I justify it? I remember that it's our wedding, that it's about us and celebrating with our closest friends and family, and that it's forever. Do I feel stupid sometimes with the amount of money that's going to/is blowing out the door? Sure. But ultimately, it'll be worth it to us both.

Interestingly enough, FH is typically the more frugal with money, and he's totally relaxed about this. How does that even happen??