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Do you "keep score" in the relationship?

Lynnie, on April 2, 2019 at 11:05 AM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 89
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There's friendly competition, trading chores, and every once in awhile the justified "I told you so"! But when doing favors for your SO becomes a mental tally of favors you expect in return - you might be falling into the trap of "keeping score" in your relationship!

Do you ever "keep score" in your relationship? Never, always, or sometimes?


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Latest activity by Sweetness, on December 26, 2020 at 6:21 PM
  • Future Mrs. K
    VIP June 2019
    Future Mrs. K ·
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    Never. We trade off on certain chores (whoever gets home earlier will start dinner and the other will do the dishes, etc.) but we don't really keep track of it, one of us will just do it if we see it needs to be done. I would never see dishes that need to be done and leave them because it's "his turn."

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  • Mrs. H
    Master September 2019
    Mrs. H ·
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    Sometimes, but we try not to.

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  • JustKidding
    VIP April 2018
    JustKidding ·
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    Never. It's not healthy to keep score.

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  • Victoria
    Super May 2019
    Victoria ·
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    Never. Our relationship isn’t a competition.
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  • maryann
    Expert June 2019
    maryann ·
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    Never.... but if I did I would always win (lol) just kidding.. But I feel like that is pointless we are a team

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  • Anna
    Master June 2020
    Anna ·
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    No, I don't keep score on household chores since I do them... I do sometimes keep a tally of other things in the back of my mind....like who calls who first.
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  • Kristin
    Super November 2019
    Kristin ·
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    Never, just NO.

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  • Beverly
    Dedicated July 2020
    Beverly ·
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    Never keep score
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  • S
    Devoted May 2019
    Sarah ·
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    No. We share things, trade off
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  • Alexandra
    VIP June 2019
    Alexandra ·
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    Sometimes, but it's not on purpose. We try not to, and just to pitch in when we see there's a need.

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  • Ash
    Savvy May 2019
    Ash ·
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    More often than we both would like. We are both pretty competitive people, but hey, no relationship is perfect and that is something we get to work on and accomplish together Smiley smile

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  • Kaitlyn
    Dedicated July 2020
    Kaitlyn ·
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    Never. We just do what needs to be done
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  • Jasmine
    Master August 2021
    Jasmine ·
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    Sometimes but not the way you would think. It would be more like "Hey, I know you did this the last time, I got it this time" rather than "I already did this, it's your turn" kind of thing. It's pretty balanced in our relationship because we want it to be, not because we're forcing the other to keep it that way.

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  • Danielle K
    VIP June 2019
    Danielle K ·
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    Sometimes? We don't keep tally of favors or say things like I did this so you have to for this but we will split or trade things. IE I will mop if you will clean the litter boxes etc.

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  • Becca
    Super August 2019
    Becca ·
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    Nope! Not that I can think of at least
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  • Whitney
    Savvy September 2020
    Whitney ·
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    Never. That's not our thing

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  • Jamie
    Expert May 2020
    Jamie ·
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    Haha. Not really, unless we're joking around
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  • EllieRose
    Expert February 2020
    EllieRose ·
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    Never. I know he hates Laundry and he knows I HATE dishes. There are things that just come naturally to us and as long as it gets done I don't see why it matters who does what.

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  • Diana
    VIP December 2019
    Diana ·
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    NEVER!!!! We do things together as a couple!! We both work and live in the home and we both care for the home together.
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  • Shaunte
    Expert December 2020
    Shaunte ·
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    Never unless we're truly joking around.

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