Old fashioned etiquette used to say that the couple should pay for accommodation for out of town wedding party members, but I doubt that happens very often nowadays.
The coupe has never been responsible to provide accommodation for out of town guests.
You can book a courtesy block at a hotel- meaning they hold a certain number of rooms for your guests at a slightly discounted rate, but even that is not necessary if your wedding is not on a holiday weekend or any other time there is high demand for hotels in your area.
Do not book anything other than a courtesy block so you are not on the hook for unbooked rooms. An alternative is to simply list recommended hotels at different price points.
Where did you read such a thing? The bride and groom don't have to pay for their guests' hotel rooms. They block rooms. What that means is that they ask the hotel to reserve a certain number of rooms for their guests and then the GUESTS call and actually book the room and pay for it. There are two types of blocks: one where you're responsible for any room not booked by your guests (don't go with any hotel who makes you do this) and another kind in which they release all the rooms not booked by your guests to the general public and you are not responsible for them.
A lot of people choose to set up a block of rooms at a local hotel for their guests. These are not rooms that are paid for by the bride and groom. The hotel agrees to set a certain number of rooms aside for wedding guests to reserve. The guests call and book their own rooms. Most hotels offer a small discount for the guests that book as part of the wedding group. Setting up the block of rooms just helps ensure the rooms won't be sold out before guests are able to book them.
Ask if they do a courtesy block. You have them set aside a certain amount of room, they give you a group rate usually. Then after a certain date any rooms not booked are released back for anyone to book.
I flat out refused to do a deposit block, it's not necessary.
Nope. We live here in Hawaii and our guests that are flying in will be booking their own rooms. HOWEVER we're providing the name of a hotel chain that gives a discount for using a wedding promotional code if they so choose to book with them. And other hotel names in the area too.
My boss is having a 250+ wedding and will be paying for accommodations. She said is expected in her culture (Indian) my hairdresser said they also paid for their guest accommodations, also traditional (Bulgarian). So it may not be so strange to do this, but I think in general in the US it is not expected.
I've only been to one wedding where the Bride and Groom didn't have hotel blocks, but I've never been to one where everyone's room was paid for. Just make a courtesy block and be sure you are not on the hook for any fees!
Absolutely not, you can simply give options. It's up to them to decide and book. I have been to 3 destination weddings, webooked our hotel ourselves, on one of them, we were asked if we're okay to book a room at this hotel, and we made a payment through the wedding planner.
No way! About 85% of our guests are out of town because our family and friends are spread all over the country. The hotel rooms would cost more than the wedding! We reserved 2 courtesy blocks at 2 hotels at different price points. One has 20 in the block and one has 10 and if they fill and the hotel still has room they will expand the block. But the guests will pay on their own
I'm only booking a courtesy hotel block because we're getting married in the height of tourist season in a very popular tourist area. Even though we're local, and 75% of our guests live within Uber distance, we want to provide everyone an affordable option if they'd like to take advantage of it. We won't be paying for anyone's room but our own. However, we are considering booking a 2nd room from my bridal suite for my FH to get ready in & then we can give the key to someone if they get too drunk at the reception to drive/make it home across town.