Do you follow up with people who don’t RSVP by the deadline?

I would definitely follow up with them, since they may end up showing up. Some may either forgot to RSVP, or maybe their RSVP card was lost in the mail. In any case, I would still reach out to them. Even the people who gave a "most likely/probably attending" RSVP, I would still ask them for a definite answer.

Oh sorry, you said your RSVPs were online! I would still reach out to them. Maybe send a text with the link to the people who haven't replied yet?

Yes, you will have to follow up with people.

Even pre-pandemic, guests are notoriously bad about RSVPing. Add in everything that's going on now, and it's even worse. Some people may be waiting closer to the deadline to see if/how numbers or travel guidelines change.

I followed up the day after our rsvp date, told them if they didn’t rsvp in 3 days they’d be marked as decline. Had about 5 more households STILL not rsvp so on the 3 day I told them if they didn’t rsvp by end of day they would be mark as decline. That got people’s attention! The only person who never rsvpd was my aunt and uncle who I don’t particularly care for, so I marked them as decline!

Yes you have to follow up with them. You call or text to find out if they're coming since some people do forget and you need an accurate headcount.

Yes definitely follow up with people who hasn’t RSVP, especially before you give your final count

Ok thanks. Deadline still isn’t for another two weeks but I’ll definitely follow up and let them know we need an answer or they will be marked as decline with no seat or plate (I think this is important for me to mention since most of Asian weddings aren’t per head).

I would definitely follow up. My husband followed up with his people and I followed up with mine.

Absolutely follow up

Definitely follow up.

We did online rsvps too and several people decided to just text us their rsvp instead of go to the website and take 5 seconds to do it themselves! So frustrating! Hopefully most of your guests will rsvp before the deadline, we had several last minute rsvps, but I still had to call or text a few.

If someone has told me they are coming. I just go in and mark them. I addressed and stamped the RSVPs and have begged people to please just send them back. They think it’s “too complicated” 😫 I will send everyone a message at the deadline letting them know this is their last chance, if we do not hear from them they will be marked not attending. We have limited seating and no room for those who decide to show up the day of without RSVPing.

Yes, it is an easy thing to do. But people should have enough manners to do it rven if they have to find paper, an envelope, and a stamp. However, it helps to remember that the reason there is a convention to have makor invitations in your hands between 6-8 weeks, and reply date about 3 weeks out, is so people can have all relevent invitations in front of them to make decisions, if there are conflicts. Because your FI's sister or m will take precedence over most friends, even if you find out later. And because the majority of workplaces and schools do not schedule time off definitely until 4 weeks out or less, or schedule e ents or exams til 3.5 weeks out. And as more and more places want early counts, and some brides send things super early, the fact is people cannot answer until they know if they are free, less that4 weeks out. But do start calling people just under 4 weeks. Also, general etiquette is that if someone makes a point to reply to an invitation, verbally or over the phone, not as you asked, any hostess takes down the information. And asks necessary questions, like meals. It is bad form to tell people to do it another way, filling out a card or online. So some may figure you are a hostess with no manners, and make a point of not responding online because you were unhelpful when they told you in person before. Although you prefer one form, standard etiquette is that any verbal or written response that gets the information across is fine. And those familiar with standard manners will think you the difficult one. In social matters and invitations, personal verbal contact is supposed to be the best. Not reliance on machines.

View Quoted Comment I would but the word “I’ll most likely go”...most likely doesn’t sound definite haha

View Quoted Comment I don’t appreciate being called unhelpful, the person said they likely can go. That doesn’t sound definite. “I think I will likely go, can’t you just mar me down?” Key word is likely.