Do you cover your plate?

We cover our plate and then if we are close to you also buy a gift off the registry. We do it because we are there because we want to share in our day and I don't feel they need to buy us dinner

Generally, I give $75. If I know the couple better, its $100+. I'd like to think my plate was covered and then a little extra.

Like some others have mentioned, I don't know how a guest is supposed to know how much is enough to 'cover their plate'. Sure they can take a guess but they don't really know for sure. A guest and a bride could have two very different definitions of 'expensive'. And that's not the point of a gift anyway.

I buy wedding gifts based on 1) How close I am to the couple 2) what I can afford

It totally depends on the wedding.

With family, FH tends to go overboard. However, we recently drove 5 hours to attend a wedding and they did not even provide a meal. We left a cheque for $50 and I think that was pretty generous.

We attended a friends wedding, as a last minute invite. (Seriously like two days before the wedding) We decided to put a little cash in a card. The food ended up being amazing and we added more cash because the meal was so great. We definitely recognized that we were a last minute addition because someone else couldn't make it, and they had already paid the caterer. A little awkward, yes.

I need to invite some of y'all to my wedding lol.

I had never heard of "covering your plate" before coming to WW. In our families, we only give a cash gift if there are no gifts left on the registry. However, in California, it is unheard of for a couple to have a short registry. Registries are always 8 - 10 pages long. Now, if there are no gifts left, and I am close with the couple, we will give $200 - $300. If I am not close to the couple, we max out at $100

Edited to correct dollar amount

Personally I look at the registry and see what I can afford I had a friend who she just registered at target and I got them a nice set of towels that were actually pretty! I had a cousin that she registered at Macy's and honestly there wasn't a darn thing that I could afford she wanted some kind of wine glass that was $75 for one and she wanted 2. I couldn't afford that AND drive to the wedding plus stay the night then go home. So instead I put $50 in a card wrote I hoped they had a wonderful life and left it at that! Finally I had a couple that didn't register at all (they eloped)so I just brought them a gorgeous aloe plant that I raised myself in a hand painted pot from a local artist I got for free and they loved it and I didn't spend a dime not only did I get a thank you card I got a call later on telling me how wonderful it was! Gift giving is a odd thing ya know!?

I never let the amount of money that was spent on a wedding dictate how much I give as a wedding gift. My gift amounts are based on what I can afford at the time and how close I am to the couple. Nothing else. So I guess my answer would be "sometimes yes, sometimes no".

I think this rule isn't a bad one. In my younger 20's though I was sorta oblivious (and poor) $25-75 dollars from me in the form of a gift was normal. Now I try to give more around 75-100 per person (with the FH that means 75-200 for the event)

We always cover our plate. I don't live in an area where plates are more than $120.

We don't go in with the mindset of paying per plate but we do try to gift $100 for each of us. So if we both attend the wedding we gift $200. That amount goes us depending on our relationship of the couple.

I'd never heard of "covering your plate" until WW. I think that's a horrible way to look at things.

I don't have a rule of thumb as far as what I give at weddings. Just depends on who it is. Seems like the average gift in my area is way low compared to other areas. At my first wedding, most gifts were in the $50-$100 per couple range while my friend said at her wedding she mostly got $25 per couple. However, a plate here costs $10-$20.

I don't understand the "cover your plate" idea because how the heck do you know how much they spent? They could have gotten $35 meals or $100 meals...so we give based on relationship. $150 for general population/friends/coworkers/obscure family. $200-$250 for good friends or good family.

Although, MANY of my guests were not as generous as that...if they even gave us a card at all!

No........

I buy what I can afford, and what get what I want to get it. It usually depends on the closeness of my relationship with the couple.

If I'm very close with one/both then I will usually spend more.

I've hear that too...usually I budget $100 for a shower gift ($150-200 if its a close family member or one of my BFFs) and give a cash gift of $100-200 (depending on the same factors) at the wedding.

I give what I can and here it seems the typical gift is somewhere between $50 and $150. We generally give between 50 and 100 depending on relationship to the couple, etc.

I've never heard of the "cover your plate" rule until I joined WW. We always gift depending on the relationship. If it's family 100-200 or good friends 75-100. I think you should gift what you like for the couple or more importantly what you can afford.

I hate this "rule". It's so stupid! First of all, how are you suppose to know what a couple has paid per plate for a wedding? I sure as hell would not ask a bride that. Secondly. gifts are optional . Couples shouldn't bank on their guests to cover the cost of the plate to make their money back, that's so stupid. Give what you can afford. Be smart about it, don't break the bank.

Nope, we do not go by this guideline. We give what we can, when we can.