do you and FH have a code signal for leaving a party?

Lol. My FH usually just says "ok we're leaving". Being subtle isn't worth the effort I guess

Yes!!! We have used it many times! Usually we can read each other pretty well, but in the situation we can't one will meet eyes with the other and do a few eye brow raises while they glance towards the door. Its met with a slight head nod or a crinkling of the eyebrows and being given "the look" hahaha!!!

We don't have a signal, but I've learned to think ahead.

I'll be dying to go home and get my pajamas on, walk over to DH to ask if we can leave, and then see that he's just cracked another beer open. So I give him a 30-minute warning so he can wrap things up. He also has a habit of getting sucked into conversations when he's saying his goodbyes, so I start yawning theatrically until the person he is talking to says, "Dude, your wife is falling asleep on the couch."

Mine says, "I just got paged. we have to go."

Ha, when that man says, "you ready sug(ar)?" He's ready to bounce.

I don't think FH has ever wanted to leave first. But we can read each other well enough to know when were done. To be honest, I usually just leave him there! He's more of a late - nigher than I am!

We just read each others body language. Since we're both really talkative and outgoing, if one of us seems to be distancing themselves or not talking that much its a given that one of us is ready to go. Usually we will just come right out and say it too. "Okay, ready to go hun?!"

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Sometimes we do. Some nights, whoever is drinking and not driving gets into one of these "I wanna party all night" moods and if the other says "you are way too drink, it is way too late, we are leaving" it can start a pointless drunken argument. One night we went to the casino with three other couples and I was extremely tired and he was extremely intoxicated. I told him "c'mon, we have to get home and take care of the dog" (which is usually our signal) and he jumped up and said "welp! That's my code phrase! Gotta go!" And outted us to everyone. It was adorable haha!

Ours is, "Do you have the time?"

I've tried to make one, but he never thinks its needed. Until we're stuck somewhere, and then afterwards he agrees we need one. . . and the cycle continues. . .

I just text him that it is time to go if we're somewhere busy or loud. I'm usually the first ready to leave cause I usually end up the DD.

No! But that is a FANTASTIC idea! Will mention it to him tonight. Usually we just give each other a nudge or a side glance with a head tilt towards the door.

I'm usually the one who wants to leave early. It's hard if he's been drinking and in a partying mood to get him to go home. If it's a friend's home sometimes I'll leave him there or get him to catch a ride home with someone else later. We really need to have sort of phrase, gesture or signal to indicate one of us wants to leave a party.