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Do i really need a wedding planner?

Emily, on December 5, 2019 at 9:28 AM Posted in Planning 0 9

Our wedding date is in October 2020 and I am having a really small wedding (max 30 people) at my mother's house. It's about 2 acres of land outside that we are turning into a beautiful garden area. I'm pretty good organizing things being a teacher and can keep track of everything pretty well. I honestly feel like this should be more work than it actually is. I'm starting to feel like I keep forgetting something that I should be doing and need to talk with a wedding planner to make sure that I haven't actually done that. I have food, music, invites, venue, flowers, my dress, and I know what my FH is wearing. We don't have a wedding party. Really the only thing I'm missing is the decorations because I haven't started on them yet with the wedding still 300+ days away. What is the pro's of having a wedding planner? What about a Day of Coordinator? I keep feeling like I'm missing something because so far the wedding planning has been super easy. *crosses fingers in case something blows up*


Latest activity by Kaysey, on December 5, 2019 at 12:10 PM
  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
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    It's pretty rare to need a wedding planner. Since you already have the basics covered, a full service wedding planner seems like a waste of money. I will always recommend a DOC though. You're not going to want to spend your wedding day setting up decorations, coordinating vendors and guests, and cleaning up.

    A few things that you may be forgetting...

    Chair/table/linen rentals




    Hair and/or makeup

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  • Amber
    Master February 2020
    Amber ·
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    Because of everything you've already taken care of on your own, I wouldn't hire a full wedding planner but I would advise getting a day of coordinator! I never thought of having one until I realized "who is going to make sure everything stays on track the day of?". I knew I wouldn't want to worry about everything going on because I'd just want to enjoy the day and I also knew my mom would try to micro manage everything and she'd have a miserable time and be super stressed out. I found a very affordable DOC in our area and after speaking with her, I'm so glad we decided to hire one. Otherwise, those day of duties will ultimately end up falling on you or a family member.

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  • M
    Expert September 2020
    Marcia ·
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    You don’t need a wedding planner but they can be very helpful.

    A lot of people opt for the day of coordinator instead.
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  • Annajoy
    Expert August 2020
    Annajoy ·
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    You definitely do not need a wedding coordinator, especially because you have so much time for researching and planning. My engagement is only 8 months and I've been doing it all on my own. As long as the anxiety and stress aren't too much for you, I'd say stick with your guns!

    However, I do recommend a day-of coordinator. You've been able to plan each piece one at a time, but come the day of the wedding all of these moving pieces are going to be coming together at once, and that's where things can get complicated. It's okay if planning has been stressful this far out, but the day of the wedding your top priorities should be getting ready, getting married, and having an amazing time. Having a day-of coordinator will enable you to do that, instead of having to direct caterers, DJs, decorators, and guests. Make sure you find someone you trust and whom you get along with! They'll be your most valuable asset on your big day!

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  • Fenja
    VIP August 2021
    Fenja ·
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    I'm also very organized and usually are the coordinator of events, when I'm involved, but for our wedding we decided to hire a day of coordinator, simply because it allows me to enjoy the day and the DOC can handle the small stuff that will inevitable be going wrong.

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  • W-K
    Super October 2019
    W-K ·
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    No, you don't need a wedding planner. We went with no wedding planner and no day of coordinator. We had a small wedding with about 28 people. Now I really do wish we had a day of coordinator because there were a few hiccups along the way. I had designated a point person to help "coordinate" things that day but things still went wrong. Mostly the music for the processional/ recessional, somehow instead of entering through the doors on one side of the sanctuary my husband wound up with the officiant standing at the end of the aisle while people were coming in and sitting down. Our recessional music wasn't played. Just little things like that that only I probably noticed.

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  • FutureMrsHadi
    Dedicated May 2021
    FutureMrsHadi ·
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    I cannot recommend a DOC enough!! We are also having a fairly small wedding (probably 50-75) and I really enjoy the planning process. So I knew for sure a wedding planner is not what I wanted or needed. But our DOC helps me stay on track by sending monthly emails and on our wedding day she'll take care of everything and make sure it runs smoothly, which is a HUGE weight off my shoulders. Honestly think it's the best investment we've made!

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  • Kristal
    Expert February 2020
    Kristal ·
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    With a wedding that small, you may just need a point person (i.e. person in charge of keeping your timeline). This does not have to be a professional but it does need to be someone you dont mind missing one part of your day to make sure the other goes smoothly.

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  • Kaysey
    Super February 2020
    Kaysey ·
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    I think wedding planners are personal preference. I think if it's in the budget and if you want one, then you should get one, but if you don't think it's necessary; there's on point in wasting the money. I didn't want to have a wedding planner b/c I did not want to spend the extra money on it and I've had a lot of help from both my FH and I's family's and members of our bridal party.

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