Hey everyone, probably quite strange for a groom to be an OP on here, but I need some help. To be blunt-I don't want my fiances brother to be a groomsman or an usher. In addition to him and I not being close, he's quite unstable mentally and I'm extremely worried about him even coming to the wedding as a guest. Though my lovely soon-to-be wife shares these thoughts with me, her parents don't, at all. The last wedding we attended, where my fiancé was the MOH, her brother started a fight with another guest who loudly cheered during an awkward moment in my fiances moh speech(it was funny). He was a guest at this wedding and I can only imagine how he would act at ours, especially if he had a role higher than guest. He's older than my fiancé, yet lives in his parents basement, has never had a job, and has the social skills of a teenager (pouting for his way, fighting, ect.).
My real questions are: Do you think other guests will think its disrespectful I don't have him as a groomsman? Also-I've seriously considered hiring a "bouncer" that specifically watches his temperament. Has anyone ever heard of hiring someone as such?