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BecomingBailey
VIP August 2016

Do I have to stand on the left?

BecomingBailey, on December 23, 2015 at 11:03 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 12

Did any of you stand on the right with the groom on the left?

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Latest activity by MrsN, on December 25, 2015 at 10:50 PM
  • Leanne
    VIP April 2017
    Leanne ·
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    My sister did. The reason was her fil was in a wheelchair and the accessible seating was that side of the church.

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  • Celia Milton
    Celia Milton ·
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    I can say that in over 1200 weddings, I've only had one bride stand on the left, but I don't know why you couldn't.....

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  • Kimi
    Master August 2016
    Kimi ·
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    I've read quite a few articles on different aspects of this. The two that stand out in my mind are: think about how your hair will be styled - you may not want that side facing your guests and whichever side you choose, seat parents so they can see their child's face (not back) during the ceremony. Sorry for the run on sentence.

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  • NowASeptMrs
    Master September 2015
    NowASeptMrs ·
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    At Celia... Is that left from your perspective? From looking in from the crowd I've only see groom on the right but I don't see why you couldn't do it! There probably is some old reasoning as to why...

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  • ******
    Master February 2016
    ****** ·
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    In Jewish weddings, I believe the bride is typically on the right. In this area, I'd definitely say you can do whatever you want.

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  • Nancy Taussig
    Nancy Taussig ·
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    When I'm officiating beach weddings (where there's plenty of flexibility), if it is very breezy, I place the bride so her hair is not blowing into her face.

    I had one groom who had to stand with his "good ear" toward me.

    I've had B&G (or the guests) change sides so parents could see their child's face (I have the couples face each other during most of the ceremony).

    And, of course, my Jewish couples reverse things.

    Do what works best for you.

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  • Celia Milton
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    The left from my perspective, sorry, I should have made that clear....

    If you're a guest, the bride is almost always on the left, and FMDF is right; in a Jewish wedding, it's usually reversed.

    As Nancy said, if I have a lot of wind, I'll switch for the veil's sake, but that rarely happens. So maybe I've had four brides on the other side.

    I have the GUESTS change sides instead of the couple.

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  • Z
    Master May 2012
    Zoe ·
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    You'll be just as married, whichever side you stand on.

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  • A
    Master January 2021
    AshleyR ·
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    What's the reason for standing on specific sides? I had no idea that was a thing...

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  • Chrissy4985
    VIP June 2017
    Chrissy4985 ·
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    Good question. I never really thought of this but like others have stated the left side from the guests perspective is how it usually goes

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  • Lala M
    Devoted September 2016
    Lala M ·
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    It's quite old. Dates back to when a bride might be stolen, either from the groom or the groom protecting what he'd taken. Grooms stand on the right so the FH sword arm is free and he can draw it, if need be. Most people are right handed, so groom would stand on the right.

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  • MrsN
    Super October 2015
    MrsN ·
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    I stood on the left and made everyone laugh at the rehearsal when I announced it was my bad side Lol

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