Is this going to be a decision I regret making in the future?

If you feel more comfortable and emotional about your brother walking you down, I say let your brother walk you down. I'm not close to my dad at all and me and FH are walking down the aisle together.

Any way they can both give you away? You don't want to upset your dad

It's your one day have your brother give you way. My mom did this and no feelings got hurt.

Go with your gut. if you have a closer relationship with your brother... that's how it is. don't feel like you have to have your dad walk you down the aisle because that's the tradition. do what you want. if it hurts feelings, you'll have to deal with that but honestly it's your decision. i think in the end the only thing you'll regret is not doing what you want. and what you feel is the best thing for you. so do that.

Don't do something for the sake of tradition or because you're afraid of hurting other people's feelings. It's YOUR day and how you feel is really all that matters.

I'm not close to my dad at all so although we're inviting him to the wedding..my mom is walking me down the aisle.

I am walking down the aisle with our youngest son, who will be 6 at the wedding. If I was getting walked down by someone else, it would be my brother. If that is what you feel is right, go for it. My brother is my best friend, and is close to me in a way my dad never will be.. Its your only chance to make it happen..

I feel the same way. I love my brother very much. When my parents divorced, he really stepped up and got me through it (he's four years older and it was a really messy divorce). I don't want to hurt my dad by having him not walk me down the aisle, so I asked him how he would feel if I asked my brother to join us in walking down the aisle. He said it would be ok. I asked my brother, but he doesn't want to upset our dad either, so he's still thinking about it. Do what you feel is best for you.

I would choose my brother over my dad. But then I doubt my dad is even coming to my wedding. So I will be walking myself down the aisle. I would choose your brother if I were you. I would definitely talk to your dad about it though. You could maybe have your brother walk you down the aisle but still have your dad come up and "give you away" and you still have the father/daughter dance so he will still very much be included.

-Plus guys in dress blues look amazing. Will make for great pictures

I think you should go w/your brother... that's not taking away from your dad. Deep down I'm sure he knows & will understand your decision.

Your dads already walking w/your mom.

It's your wedding day, and you want to have your brother walk you down the aisle. That's all that matters.

You basically have to decide between hurting your dad's feelings (maybe), and being less happy and comfortable on your wedding day. I vote for having the day you want.

I agree, if you are closer with your brother, ask your brother. Chloe, is there something specific to make you wonder whether your dad is coming or not? I also question whether my father will actually come to my wedding. Rather than worry about it, I have already mentioned it to my favorite uncle and if dad backs out at the last minute (as he often does), I will still have someone to give me away.

If you have a decent relationship which it sounds like you do with your dad (not abusive, not absent, etc). then I'd suggest perhaps having your brother walk you down half way, and your dad the rest of the way..I saw this done once and it was so sweet.

Do you think your dad would get offended? If it were me I'd feel like I'd regret not having my dad "give me away"..presumably he's the one that raised you I'd at least honor that in some way..Again if you have a healthy relationship and he was a good father then you may regret it. Maybe talk to your mom about it and see what she says?

I was going to suggest the same thing as Ab. Your brother could walk you down half way, and then hand you over to your dad to take you the rest of the way (or vice versa, though I think this makes more sense).

If your relationship with your dad is overall good, there may come a time in your life when you will cherish the memory of having him walk you down the aisle, or regret that you didn't give him the opportunity.

Maybe walk down the aisle with both? My thoughts exactly Barbara.

Why not explain it as a positive view to ur dad. say something like I am so proud of my marine brother and so happy we are close ect. I am so happy he is able to come to the wedding. I really want him to walk me down the aisle in his blues bc he has always been there and I love him.

@Theresa- I haven't even decided if I'm going to send him an invite yet. He lives in the UK and I haven't seen him in 2 years. We talk maybe once every 2/3 months. He's never met my FH or my daughter. If he comes it may just cause drama between him and my mom. Plus he "hates America" so I really don't see him making the trip...

Maybe your dad can walk you the first part of the way, and your brother can give you away.

I say have ur brother walk u down and just explain to ur dad how important he is to u or as others have suggested have one walk u down half way then switch.

I like the idea of switching halfway.

Giving you away may be the thing that brings you closer together... if that's what you want.

If I can share this story- at one wedding, the groom didn't have his step mother at the head table. She wasn't even seated at one of the closer tables. She was seated at a table right at the back. We don't know the reason why he didn't like her but we thought it was awful that they did this. Not just me & hubby but all our friends. Not exactly your dilemma, but my point is that what you decide to you could be a good reflection or a bad reflection on you.

You clearly don't want to hurt his feelings & cause any undue embarrassment so it would be nice to include him.

Weddings change people... maybe it will make him realize something. People say a wedding is about the bride & groom & it is, but it's also about families coming together.

If you want your brother to give you away, then thats what will happen. Understand that some people might not be in total agreement but you cant make decisions based on how others might feel. Just be upfront with them! Let us know how everything goes! And thank your brother for his service!!