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LuckiestGirl
Devoted September 2014

Is this going to be a decision I regret making in the future?

LuckiestGirl, on November 6, 2013 at 9:08 PM

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So...I love my dad and all, but we just don't have the best relationship. I am closer to my mom and brother. My brother is younger than I am, but he has been my best friend my entire life. He recently became a Marine, and that has brought us even closer. He's already told me that he's going to be...

So...I love my dad and all, but we just don't have the best relationship. I am closer to my mom and brother. My brother is younger than I am, but he has been my best friend my entire life. He recently became a Marine, and that has brought us even closer. He's already told me that he's going to be wearing his Dress Blues at my wedding.

Honesty time -- I want my brother to walk me down the aisle! I would like my father to walk my mother down, instead of me. It's not out of spite, because we aren't close, or anything like that -- but because I am THAT close with my brother. I want that emotional moment of detachment at the "giving away" moment, but I don't see myself having that with my dad...I just feel detached already. My brother has been my protector and a very big supporter of my relationship with my FH.

So here's the question -- should my brother to walk me down the aisle in his Dress Blues? Or is it not worth the possible hurt my dad may feel? Will I regret it? I am torn.

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  • We'llAlwaysHaveParis
    Master November 2013
    We'llAlwaysHaveParis ·
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    Just casually mention that you're thinking about having your brother walk you and gauge everyone's reactions.

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  • Tatiana
    VIP September 2013
    Tatiana ·
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    My mom walked me down. I almost had my brother walk me down. I am really, really close with both of them. My dad was there and I love my dad to pieces, but it just didn't feel right. It was hard to tell him he wasn't walking me down (he had a bunch of other rolls, like a reading, the blessing before dinner, and father daughter dance), but I didn't want to just choose him because it was normal.

    I really had to sit back and think about who I really wanted standing with me when we were alone in the moments before walking down the isle to my soon to be husband. It was my mom. I will never regret having her with me and giving her that honor after all she has done for me (and continues to do for me). My dad did ask to bless me with a kiss on the head before I was handed off to my husband, which was a great moment.

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    Master July 2014
    csquid ·
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    Maybe you could talk to your dad about it. Just tell him how you feel and make it about how you feel about your brother and not how you don't feel about your dad. If that makes sense. Not that your dad isn't special to you, but your brother is someone you'd like to honor as a very important person in your life.

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  • Eleanor
    VIP October 2014
    Eleanor ·
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    If you want your brother to walk you down the aisle then you should do that. Just be prepared for some hurt feelings.

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  • LuckiestGirl
    Devoted September 2014
    LuckiestGirl ·
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    Thank you for all your feedback ladies! This definitely helped. I will update you on the decision I make! The switching-halfway-idea is something I'm definitely considering. Thanks, again!

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  • Kristie & Bryce
    Super April 2014
    Kristie & Bryce ·
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    If you aren't that close he might not mind. Phrase it the right way. That you are honoring your brother as well. I say go with your heart.

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  • shirlden
    Super March 2014
    shirlden ·
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    It is your day I say have your brother walk you down the isle. Just go to your dad and tell him this is your plan so he hears it from you.

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