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Unless you want a fight

please do not wear white....

:p

seriously though, i think most people know better than to wear white to a wedding. I've never seen anyone do it and I've been to a whole lot of them! I don't think it really needs to be mentioned.

I am very interested to see the suggestions that you get. I actually got into an argument with my in-laws because my MIL wanted to wear an ivory/champagne suit. My wedding dress is ivory and my reception dress is champagne. When his family started asking me questions about the wedding, I made it very clear to everyone that I didn't want anyone to wear anything remotely in the white family. For the most part they seemed accepting of my wishes. My mom said to let my MIL wear the ivory suit because no one will be able to steal the light away from me. Eventually, I got my SIL to explain to my MIL that she should wear a different color and she agreed.

I had a friend that was going to wear "cream" to the wedding, my other friends set her straight. She thought since it was off white it would be fine (but my dress was off white too x.x LOL) So yeah, its a pet peeve of mine too.

Honestly, I think if you have a short story/poem, people will skip reading it. I only read the menu card for a friends wedding because we needed to choose our meal. I save them to be able to read what time they are at closer to the wedding. Beyond that, I don't know what they say other than the date.

I'd say spread the word via word of mouth -- I assume you know some folks that are likely to be offenders? Try and put a bug in their ear. But short of going to everyone's houses and dressing them yourself, know that someone might *still* wear white. :/

LOL @ Julie!!!!!!

I agree with Julie that most people know not to do that but sometimes you have to tell them.

I think it is rude to tell people what to wear, no matter how you word it. You will be the only one in a wedding dress. Beyond that I would not get worked up about it.

I know people that would wear white just because you said not to. I would not do it. if someone wears white they get enough stink eye they know real fat it is a no no.

I've seen folks wear white to a few weddings lately. Lots of MILs too! Also other guest wearing it. My wedding is in teh winter and teh theme is A White Affair; therefore i want to make clear that this isn't a white party for people to show up wearing white. White will be my new last name.

PS...Julie...I did like your short poem :-)

I would suggest not letting guess know that the theme is A White Affair. That's going to give you trouble and cause confusion. If I saw that on an invitation, I would think that they wanted me to wear white. And like I said, I barely read invitations, so your guests probably would not read that closely either.

I think with your situation I would recommend the poem.

Guests may get confused with the "A White Affair" theme and interpret it as you need to wear white.

Yeah I would also think I had to wear white ^-^() If you want to theme it something with your last name try Something "With the Whites" that way its clear that you mean your last name

Double post oh my!

Teh invitations are printed so no changes can be made there...that theme is also on my website and was on the save the dates.

I'm an avid "Ask Amy" reader (from the Chicago Tribune) and she recently posted an article about this so I find this discussion very interesting.

Basically the bride didn't care- but there was a guest that attended that was appalled by other guests wearing white.

I'm pretty sure no matter what you say, people will wear what they want. I think the people that wear white (or shades of white) to weddings either do it on purpose or they have nothing else to wear.

In my opinion- rock it harder than them. No one will know the difference if you're shining brighter.

Pumpkin's right, you shouldn't tell guests what to wear, unless your venue has a strict dress code and they won't be allowed in the door. I am not a fan of any cutesy poem-type wedding-related anything. IMO it's cheesy. Plus, I kind of feel like if you need a poem to say something nicely, it's probably something that should not be said.

If someone is clueless enough to wear white to a wedding, they probably do not have the sense to read or remember whatever cute poem you come up with anyway. And if someone does wear white, it's seriously NBD. A couple old Polish ladies wore white to our wedding. It's a cultural thing. Trust me, I still got more attention than I wanted and nobody was confused about anything. It's not like H couldn't tell us apart at the end of the night.

Well, I truly believe that a poem, while cute, will not get the point across, I really don't think people will read that closely. And if you've already spread the word about the theme, I think there will be a lot of confusion.

Best bet right now is talk to the family/friend gossips about your pet peeve and let them spread the word, but I still think you won't have complete control over it, so like Nicole said, rock white harder than them (great quote, Nicole!)

I was raised and still believe that the bride should be the only one in white (or poss. the flower girl in a white dress with accent colors is OK)...but I know times have changed...and our wedding is an outdoor ceremony in the middle of August...so I am sure there will be some that will wear white just because it's cooler...I'm not going to worry about it....and if it's because they don't understand the concept...so be it..I won't re-train their thinking with a statement or request on an invitation. (and I'll put someone with colors on between us in pictures LOL)

Yoshino, since your wedding is in Feb., not many people would think to wear white. Except you mentioned a theme.

Terri, you're likely to have guests in white at your August outdoor ceremony.

I officiated a summer beach wedding where the bride told everyone to wear white -- and she wore a ballgown that looked like the sunset (pink, yellow, orange).

I wouldn't say anything. It doesn't take away from you being the bride even if someone does it. In fact they'll probably get evil looks from people all night or someone else will say something to them, and they'll be punished that way.