I know its not my fault.... trigger warning !! UPDATE!

OP, it's been almost 10 minutes...are you still writing?

You gave us a way to identify who you were before, so I'm not sure why you changed your name. No one is going to give you crap for something if it's serious.

I've been religiously refreshing as well. I want to be helpful but I can't...

Also refreshing! We're here to help

I'm getting worried about her.

Why would you change your profile pic and your name, yet still give people a way to identify you from before and identify you afterwards?

Hon, come back and let us know you're ok please.

This is a really mystifying post.

OP, next time please type everything out in a word document, then copy and paste here, that way there isn't this long lag time between the OP and your continuation.

I could only assume that the end of that sentence is "...and he never comes" or "...says he will be there but doesn't show up". But just from that, an invite would still be necessary. So what's the problem OP?

I doubt she's writing anymore. OP, no one here would chew you out or make you feel embarrassed if it's a sensitive topic. If they did, no doubt they'd get chewed out themselves.

Please come back and let us know you're OK.

And he never comes.. well here is why im thinking about it so much. When i was 4 years old (and yes i remember every single second) my uncle (my dads younger brother) raped me, it was several of times not just once.. another of my uncle molested me (another of my dads brother). I told my parents after this when i was 9 years old , my parents cried .. i remember i was ok like everything was ok, We havent seen my uncles ever since i was 6 (he is in mexico) after I told my parents that everything changed. I remember being 10 years old when my dad started massing my legs when i had told him they hurt , I felt weird i felt a different kind of person ever since that time my dad (yes, my real dad) started molesting me and it never stopped till i decided to say something when i was in high school , by that time i was 13 years old, I got feed up on how my dad violently would hit me as if i was a man he was fighting with. I remember i had bruises all over my body so i decided to take shorts to school and a strapless shirt so someone would notice well my principal notice and thats where everything changed. I was in foster care after that for 9 months.. ill make the story short now.. after that we got to home only with my mom, my dad was allowed to have visitations with my siblings i wasnt, and i remember my Christmas was lonely I would see my parents and siblings play in the snow while i was inside since i could be with my dad, thats when i said why am i even here well i started running away so much i ended up pregnant at 15... i know it sounds dumb but maaan was that the biggest blessing.. my baby was my escape the reason for me to leave, that when than i moved out with my kids dad... So fast forward time.. I talk to my dad, i have been to my parents house i love spending time with my mom and my siblings i pretty much talk to my mom every other day , i rarely talk to my dad but we do when i see him... when they would do Christmas dinner we would go for a little bit, sometime he would call me to ask us to come over once in a while, but when im over at theyre house i am not comfortable with him but i try to act calm.. I cant say i have forgave him but I still talk to him, but there is some hate, anger inside me that i wont show him. I feel more sad towards him, i feel bad for him. I never turned into drugs or alcohol which i feel good about ,because i see cases like mine where girls take it so bad and i understand them.Thats why my moms call makes me feel all kinds of ways, she says that my dad is supposed to be there but im not comfortable about it but why do i blame myself and feel bad about him,about leaving him out because i had already said my brother would walk me or my little boys would... now my mom is saying its a once in a life time moment where my dad has to do that, I dont want him to but like i said make me feel like the bad guy in this ..

So sorry .. im here im at work and trying to make this as short as i can

sorry about some wrong spelling hope you understand

Wow

Your dad MOLESTED you and your mom expects him to be at your wedding?

Why the hell does she associate with him at all any more?

ETA and to be molested by your father after being continuously raped by your uncles. I seriously have no words for this.

My god

YOU are not the bad guy.

And no- your father does not need to walk you down the aisle. Your walk = your choice. Stay firm. (Honestly, why your mom even associates with him at all completely baffles me.)

And I'm so sorry for what happened to you. I truly have no words. You are so strong.

No absolutely not. Do not invite that fucking psycho or let him touch you as you walk down the aisle. No no no no no. Also, please get some counseling OP

OP I'm so sorry you went through that with your family. I can't believe your mom continues to associate with him let alone acts as though you should want him around or in your life after all of that. Have you had any therapy for this and have you ever discussed how you feel about having your father at your wedding with your mother?

I hope you do what is best for you and not try to please your mother. I am truly sorry OP.

You dad molested you?

Nope! Nope! Nope! I don't think he should even be AT the wedding as a guest, little on have the important honor of walking you down the aisle.

And you mom is siding with him?! I probably wouldn't invite her either for enabling this behavior! A mother stands by her child, no matter what.

ETA words

Actually, can someone tell me WHY OP changed his name and picture to begin with? why was she embarrassed?

NEVER MIND - I JUST READ THE REST OF THE STORY... damn, that is terrible!! I m sorry, OP.

In that situation, you don't need to invite your dad. You are well within your rights and etiquette to not extend an invite if you don't want him there. I am so sorry all of that happened to you at such a young age. It is 100% your choice.

Wait, are you parents still married? If so, I wouldn't invite mom either.

@OP, I am so sorry you had to endure this growing up. You have absolutely every right to not invite your father. In my opinion, hurting a child should be an automatic termination of parental rights.