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Savvy September 2019

Here is my story...what are your thoughts?

Soonbridetobe, on February 27, 2019 at 11:25 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 12
When we got engaged, I was few months pregnant. We moved in, and bought out first home. Meantime, we were sort of planning a destination wedding (none of our families lives in the US where we live). I felt really overwhelmed with looking for home ( we searched for years) and being pregnant, I decided to push the wedding. A year later my first baby was born, my second arrived (yes my babies are 1 year apart ha). Now, my kids are 3 and 2 we are planning something. We are planning just having a small intimate reception only (80 ppl max) at his country, we have the vendors and I am about to order my dress. But now I am feeling "silly" for wearing a brides dress, veil, without cerimony there. I feel like ppl will judge that we are doing that since we are already living together for years with 2 kids. I am not expecting gifts, we wont even do registry. We are both very shy, our cerimony will be here in the US with only our parents. If was for my SO we would just elope and do pictures. I don't mind that but I fear I will regret later on of not having a party. Your thoughts?

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Latest activity by Jessica, on March 5, 2019 at 10:00 PM
  • MrsD
    Legend July 2019
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    I don't think it's silly, you are getting married! I would just plan the wedding you've always wanted. Plenty of couples get married after living together & having kids.

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  • Cassandra7
    Super August 2006
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    Elope. Have a party/reception when you get back.

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  • Jennifer
    Super August 2019
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    If you aren't doing a ceremony I don't know why you'd want to do a bridal dress w/veil-- you can do a white formal dress while it still looks bridal

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  • S
    Savvy September 2019
    Soonbridetobe ·
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    To whom? Just for the both of us?
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  • S
    Savvy September 2019
    Soonbridetobe ·
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    Yes. My dress is sort of like that but long train.
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    Savvy September 2019
    Soonbridetobe ·
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    Thank you 💕
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  • Cassandra7
    Super August 2006
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    Elope by yourselves. Have the people you love at your subsequent party.

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  • Danielle
    Master June 2019
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    It's not silly, and you wont come off as silly. Me and my FH live together with kids. I plan to wear the dress & veil. We will be having a large wedding ceremony & reception with 200 guests. I think y'all should continue to plan the wedding that y'all want to have.

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  • Summerbride77
    VIP July 2019
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    Exactly this! It’s not silly and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. It’s still your wedding and you deserve to feel like a bride!
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  • CountryRoads
    Expert October 2018
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    Please don't let fear of judgement from others prevent you from having this memory and the experience that you want. We all build our lives and families in different orders and ways. If they judge they are not worth investing your concern.

    You are getting married! YOU ARE A BRIDE!! Celebrate the family you two have built together and the love that it contains!! That's the whole point!! Living together and having children together does not diminish that.


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  • Nicole
    Super October 2021
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    I don't think its silly at all. Just because you did things in a different order doesn't mean you dont deserve the wedding of your dreams Smiley heart. If you want to Elope, do that too and then have a party when you get back. I had cousins that did that. It was a lot of fun!

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  • Jessica
    Super May 2019
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    Girl do you! FH and I are getting married on our 10 year anniversary! And we have 2 kids and own a house together. 🤷‍♀️ Everyone is just as excited for us taking this step. And I'm going full bridal! It's my only shot at it. 😉
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