Changing the wedding date

We’ve just changed ours by, well, a lot!
Mom half way through my degree (it’s a five year course 😒), and my FH graduates this year. We met while he was on Erasmus to my uni in the UK, and it’s been long distance for nearly two years, after he went back to Mexico (he’s now finishing his degree with a research placement in San Diego), and the 8 hour time difference is a nightmare, as well as the 12 hour flights to see each other.
Mourn original date was 16th October 2021, the autumn after I graduate to give us a few months to get everything sorted. But we decided we don’t want to wait that long and have pulled our date forwards to the 27th July 2019! It’s really kicked me into full planning mode.
For the long distance thing it’s hard. I think that’s the main reason we want to do it so quickly. We lived together for three months before he went back to Mexico and I haven’t seen him since we got engaged on my birthday in December. It’s the worst feeling in the world to be so far from the person you love and being married will make it so much easier. I’m going to San Diego for a month in June before I start my year in industry placement and we’re hoping to get our venue booked! It’s all so exciting but definitely more stressful than if we left it until 2021.

We’re the same, Have a colour scheme, and dates. So the next month is going to be packed with venue research, budgeting and guest lists. I’m actually really excited for the planning but my FH isn’t quite so organised. Ours is a couple of months before yours, so we’re hoping to have our venue booked about a year in advance, and by then we’ll have finalised our guest list, asked the bridal party, and will be sending out save the dates around August/September (destination wedding so we’re doing it as early as possible- lots of our friends are broke students so giving them plenty of warning).
I’m using the WW checklist, but planning to do stuff about a month before they recommend, I’ve already made our website and started researching the venues but have three more exams before I can really dive into it.

Good luck!
Don’t listen to the people who judge you about rushing into it, or following him. Even if you were going to follow him and settle with a mediocre job, if it’s your choice to then it’s no ones right to be rude about it! I would gladly work somewhere that wasn’t perfect to be close to my partner for a little while. But at uni neither of us can really do that haha

Hi! Just came to say my fiancé is in the navy and I'm moving to Guam with him after our wedding this November! Glad to hear the humidity isn't that bad! I'm so over the time difference from here to Guam!

I think the date change is totally fine, its not like people have gotten save the dates or anything! You all need to do what's best for you all!

Hi there! I can definitely understand the logic behind the 2020 date and want to move it up. If you both are happy when you're with each other then why not move the date up! If you all have the means to do so then go for it. Otherwise, waiting until 2020 will allow more time for planning. It can be scary to take that jump but once it's done I'm sure you both will be glad you did it. At the end of the day do what's best and makes the most sense to the both of you.

Congrats

View Quoted Comment You’re moving to Guam?! Girl let’s be friends hahahaha

We changed ours from 2020 to 2019, we want to buy a house in 2020 as well and didn't want the stress of planning the wedding and buying a house the same year. As long as you are not losing out on any deposits I say GO for it!

We got engaged Sept 1 2017 and were planning for Sept-Oct 2019 but moved it up to Aug 18 2018. I'm glad we did it but it has been a struggle when booking certain vendors. All the great makeup artists were already booked in my area, for example. If you decide to start doing that it's better to start looking at vendors sooner than later to make sure you get the ones you want!

View Quoted Comment Pleaseeeee!!! I'd love to! He's the only person I'm going to know over there!

My original date was March 10, 2019 or April 2019 because of a honeymoon we wanted. When we realized that it wasn't going to happen, we changed to the original date I always wanted: October 10 (the day we met).

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You're a brave soul! Since I've been there, I know some of my fiancé's peeps, but not well enough to hang with them outside of Spencer. I'm so down though!! Add me on Insta and/or Facebook!! Lainey Jameson/@laineyjam