Alchol or No Alcohol?

I thinkd you should stick to your original idea. If your father and others are alcoholics then I think its better not to have it. I am not having alcohol and have only been to one reception with it. I don't think its a huge deal. I think the music and stuff like that is more important than booze.

Hmmm, I have the same issue (well, not quite - only a few that I KNOW of in my family). I decided to have the bar BUT I am taking photos of certian people and giving them to the waiters and bar tenders. I like to call this my "DO NOT SERVE" list.

I also worry about my father sneaking alcohol(im sure he will) so idk if I should tell him that I will have him removed if he gets out of hand..I dont want him saying things at our reception about how we will get divorced or how he thinks that marriage is stupid..

I'm having alcohol but people who try to make frequent refill trips are going to be cut off before they get a change to drink enough to get out of hand.

Im not having alcohol.... My parents dont drink... and my uncles that do drink get out of hand so i dont want no crazies in my wedding lol.....

The same thought has crossed my mind. I wonder if the bartender would keep an eye on how much people are drinking. I would just hate for them to "cut someone off" and it cause a scene. Is your dad the type you can talk to about it? or does he think it is a non issue?

When I told him we didnt want to have alcohol, he said "send me a video of the wedding". He was joking but I dont know that he will be respectful enough to not drink for one night out of respect for his only daughter..

Half of my family is Pentacostal and the other half are alcoholics (well like a third and some are neither) but yeah.... its better for me not to have it. I think anyone is able to go one night without drinking and if your father is not able to be there for you just because there is no alcohol then basically he will either not be there or be there drunk and rude.

Thanks for the advice

Based on what you wrote it sounds like it would be best to go non alcoholic. I think you would sleep better knowing that you were not contributing to someone's disease and embarassment. For those who will not come or leave early because you didn't serve them an alcoholic beverage, I respectfully observe that you probably don't want them at your wedding in any case.

Dan

If you want alcohol you could only have it available for a certain amount of time or you could give out drink tickets. That way there can be alcohol but people won't be able to drink enough to get out of hand.

I also have the same issue, we have decided that we are not having a bar cause we dont want any trouble and i wont ppl to remember my wedding as a pleasent beautiful day not a day when her family got drunk and ruined her wedding. i would go with your first instinct.

We're alcohol-free too! your wedding is right around mine... you could have summery drinks instead of all of the alcohol. we're doing a cocktail hour with lemonade, iced tea, a slushie machine, and a fruit punch/sherbert drink. it will be fun and most importantly, the people who love you will be there no matter what even if there's no alcohol. they can forgo their daily 6-pack for one day! although, i have an aunt who is an alcoholic... she rasises havoc where ever she goes and she will not be intived to my wedding. i haven't seen her in years and i dont consider her a part of my family so she won't be able to come.

Yeah I am doing tea, and fruity drinks and punch. I love punch and sherbert. It is cheap and yummy.

I think you should go with your first instinct and do no alcohol. Personally, we are planning on having a bar at our wedding, but I'm thinking of having only beer and wine.

I'm personally not having alcohol at the reception for similar reasons BUT we're shutting down shop early and any one that wants to can join us at the bar for drinks after the reception....in a cab That way they are not my responsibility.

I think you should do what you want as far as not having alcohol at the reception, because you want happy fun times and not something that you look back on and be unhappy about. It is your wedding so do what you feel is right.

It can get expensive but at least with my crowd (mostly younger) I think it would be nice to have. We are doing a cocktail hour with house liquor and then after that hour we are just doing beer and wine. It cut the cost by about $1000.

I am relieved to know I am not the only one that is choosing not to have alcohol at the wedding. For us it's mostly personal reasons. FH lost his first fiancee to a drunk driver ten years ago. I've lost several family members to drunk drivers. Not to mention neither one of us drink. I also want it to be a event people remember and not for the antics of the drunk ones. Our reception will be over with plenty of time for people to go out and have a drink after.

I agree with the majority. Go with your instinct.