Dilemma: inviting the former big crush

Definitely would weird me out. I would ask him not to invite her. You don't want to be thinking about his past crushes on your wedding day.

No!!! If my FH wanted to invite the "one who got away", I'd be furious. I have one or two exes that I'd say I'm friends with, and they're not invited. It's weird.

Just read through other comments, I am curious as well why she continues to reach out despite being married and also curious as to what she says to him AND what he says back.

I would say talk to him. I don't think I would be comfortable with her there. It is a day about you 2 as a couple.

Nononononononnonono

I wouldn't invite her. I don't think anything would ever happen or she would 'make a move' lol but I feel like it's sort of odd and tacky, especially since she texts him when she's lonely.

I agree with Maui K

Tell him your uncomfortable. I personally would not be okay with it if I were in your position

Hell no. How would he feel if you wanted to invite your huge crush that you used to be in love with and still talk to from time to time whom he's never met? That is very very weird and you guys honestly need to have a talk.

Absolutely not. This day is to celebrate your love for one another, not to deal with past loves.

Nope nope nope! Niet.. negative... not gonna happen

No. I just saw an article yesterday that talked about different ways of cheating -- it said only flirt with your spouse, not others anymore.

Your FH is her safety and there to boost her self esteem when she's down. There's no need for them to even be communicating. That's disrespectful to you and your relationship.

FH probably doesn't even realize what she's doing or that it's inappropriate. My FH had a girl who always flirted with him when she was between other guys. She never congratulated him on our engagement. He stopped talking to her after we got engaged, but then she tried texting him when she broke up with her boyfriend, and she literally said, "I miss our flirty friendship." He openly told me about it, and I asked him to think about if that girl is really a friend and to listen to how that sounds. Did he want me flirting with another guy if we were at a low point? Of course not. He hadn't thought about it like that.

Men don't understand that some women have underlying motives by reaching out to them when their own relationship is not great. She needs to work on her own self esteem and marriage, and leave your FH alone.

Talk to him about it and explain your feelings.

Having been stuck in this sort of dynamic with my *former* best opposite-sex friend...

Absolutely not.

Nope. That would be a huge no for me. Your feelings should be more important to him than having her there.

I was on the other end of a situation like this. I took my fiancé to my hometown right after we were engaged and I was so excited to introduce him to everyone. I hadn't really thought about how he would feel in regards to my old best friend who I had had a crush on all of grade school but never actually dated...

Well after meeting the whole high school gang we got in the car and he looked at me and said " I love you but I hope you respect that so-so will not be at the wedding"

I immediately agreed. I love my fiancé and whatever makes him uncomfortable makes me uncomfortable too. I would expect the same curtesy from him as well

So moral of the story tell him! I'm sure he will agree!

WTF no. She shouldn't be there. And them walking down memory lane would not be ok with me at all.

If you aren't okay with it then she should not be invited. It is that simple.

ETA: If another girl was texting my FH about their past and going down "memory lane" I'd be pissed as hell. She certainly wouldn't come to my wedding (and neither would "old acquaintances that I never saw anymore).

There's a lot of nope here.

He's engaged and she's married. If she's lonely, she needs to be reaching out to her husband, not your FH.

Why is he inviting people from his past that he's not close with anymore? This is your wedding, not his high school class reunion.

Why does he think that it would even be okay to invite a woman that he fawned over for years?

Nope. Nope. Nope.

I would never feel comfortable with that. Tell FH how you feel. He should understand.