Dilemma: inviting the former big crush

Why is he inviting people less important than her and she's making the list?

Your guest list is to damn big of that's the case.

Nope. Don't do it lol I'd be like eff that.

My FH is doing the same thing and I also am not incredibly comfortable with it but that is my own insecurity. She is friends with all his other friends. They all went to school together and it would be strange for him to leave her out. I get the awkwardness of it because I feel it too but I'm also very confident that he loves me and that's the end of it. I'm counting on him being focused on me in our wedding day. I don't think the former crush being there will matter.

If she hasn't been important enough to invite over for dinner, or to a birthday, etc....she shouldn't be invited to the wedding. That's really weird and awkward.

NOPE.

Nope nope nope nope nope nope nope. I would shut this shit down so fast.

Nope. Nope. Nope.

It's a hard no for me.

This is a tough one. Is there any way you could meet her sometime before the wedding? For me, every time I've felt insecure about another person, meeting them has really helped.

I feel like for me this would be a no. is this someone you would invite for dinner? if no then no. Also I feel like you're not obliged to meet her. just, why?

Nooooooope

"He said he was inviting people who are a lot less important to him from the past...."

HUH?!

Can you elaborate on that a bit more, because I'm having a hard time understanding this.

Yeah, no.

I feel like all of us have had this person to an extent - unrequited, unavailable, whatever, "friend," who we text when we're lonely or sad or need our ego stroked.

But those friendships should go or fizzle away when you find the right person.

Because they're not really just "friendships" after all. And often times one person has ulterior motives or is just being selfish.

Tell him how you feel.

Why is she still reaching out to your FH if she's married and he's engaged? That's a big nope, and I'd tell her to back up off your man.

I had a similar situation occur when fh and I first began dating... lonely text from a chick and reminiscing ... at first it was fine because many of us have that one person.... but the minute we began getting serious I made it known that it had to atop. It was disrespectful to me as his significant other. Any woman who would lonely text to a man isn't completely innocent in their intentions. They are needing something... maybe not physical but attention, and if the man is involved with another woman that is completely disrespectful to her. There is such a thing of being friends with the opposite sex but when certain feelings were involved at one point or another there is strong possibility that a line could be crossed eventually... it's a absolute no for me regardless of any reasoning behind his motives!

Nope nope nope...

I had someone in my life like that...He was invited to my first wedding and then uninvited.

Now I'm marrying him. Sooooooo

Yeah.

Why on Earth would he want to invite her? I'd definitely be questioning his feelings for her. That's so sketchy.

Thats a big No-No..

Why are you both even inviting people that you aren't close with?

You're describing the plot of a movie where the bride gets left and the crush walks away with your man.