Dilemma! I hate dancing and want nothing of it... my fiance loves dancing and wants to dance all night.

I haven't read through all of your comments, but I am curious because you state "As for a choreographed dance... maybe. I still don't like the idea of showing off such an intimate moment to 100 people" are you doing the traditional ceremony and saying your vows in front of these 100 people? I feel like that is more intimate then dancing. Doesn't your social anxiety get in the way of that?

This sounds like it is about the intimacy of the first dance. That seems to be a real trigger for the OP.

I don't think it's stage fright -- she's looking forward to using the Karaoke Machine all night.

If your anxiety is such that you can't do any dancing, then I suggest ... NOT doing any dancing. It's okay. Even if there is dancing at your wedding, for your fiance, that doesn't mean you have to dance, too.

I guess I'm confused about the question here at this point. Is it that you don't feel comfortable having dancing at all as an activity? Or that you're just looking for suggestions for non-dance activities?

Those people that made fun of you can kiss your butt! I'm sorry that you gave up something you loved to do, even if you weren't that great at it, because of other people.

I'm assuming as a geek fan you've read Epbot? She's an awesome person and has anxiety issues as well, I like reading her blogs. I've had anxiety issues in the past but nothing crippling, but I have suffered pretty severe depression so I know how it can affect major things in your life.

Do you think your husband and you can do some nerdy entrance or something? Or a dance to a fun theme song of your favorite game or movie? To appease him but keep you okay with the familiar.

People do like to dance though, so I think if you plan on having a DJ you shouldn't veto dancing for everyone else, but I do think having board games and such is a great idea! FH's cousin got married and she had croquet since it was an outdoor wedding, we missed the wedding, it was too far away, but everyone looked like they had a great time!

I don't know if games are going to work if there is going to be dancing. Games require conversation, communication. Dancing requires loud music that prohibits conversation, and inhibits communication that isn't sign language. It will require some planning to get those two things to work together.

Some suggestions, things I've seen ...

I was at a friend's wedding that had a photobooth. Was neat because the guy running the booth took copies of all the pictures afterward and made a collage for the bride and groom. Also every person got to sign a quilt square with a personal message which they then had stuffed and sewn together. They also had a photo scavenger hunt. Every table got a disposable camera and each person got a list of pix to take. Everyone at the table who scored the most pix from the hunt got a special favor in the mail.

Our original wedding theme idea was going to be movies because we love movies. But FW eventually thought it would be tacky (I don't; I still want to do it lol) so we scrapped it. We were going to have little mementos from our favorite movies on the tables. Each guest would get a sheet of paper and go around to each table and try to figure out which movies were being represented. The most correct answers wins a prize. For example, a little pink bar of soap for Fight Club, a small toy briefcase that I would have glued ajar and put a little yellow LED in it for Pulp Fiction. We had lists and lists of these things. Now we're doing a winter theme. Humbug!

Anyway, activities could be interesting so long as the guests are those kinds of people. And if they aren't, will that really matter to you? Just do what you want to do and don't do what you don't want to do.

I know this was years ago but I came across this forum and I have the exact same problem...how did it go/what did you end up doing??