Didn't get the diamond size memo?

@Future Mrs. A,

dang girl if you think that diamond is small, you should see mine! But honestly I could care less how big [or small] the diamond is, it is absolutely beautiful in my eyes

Honey, dont be fixated on the diamond, it's about the love you and your future hubby have for each other. Just because you have a big diamond, doesn't mean it will last forever!

Is your ring special to you and FH? If so that is all that matters it is about the two of you and not everyone else

I have had a similar experience with my engagement ring and my wedding band that I chose! I was so excited that we finally got our wedding bands paid off and when I showed my sister them, it was kind of hurtful what she said. She said it looked like one of the diamonds were going to fall out and it should have been cleaned and that you could tell where they sodered(sp?) them back together. I was almost doubting my choice, but I have always loved simple things.

I have upgraded from half to 3/4...just a preferrence..bigger doesn't mean better, but to me...I like bigger...i would wear a CZ...who would know? I'm not all about going into debt for a ring...

Personally i am not a fan of upgrading an e ring. mine is small but its the one fh proposed to me in and it has sentimental value. i do not want a bigger one in the future bc it will not be an engagement ring then.

I had 2 rings, my first eng. ring was .25 cts and for my wedding day gift the hubby upgraded my ring to .75 cts, I was suprised and yet happy. I'm going to turn the .25 diamond into a solitare necklace.

Future Mrs A- your ring is beautiful! I know how if feels to love your ring, but people reactions aren't always that nice. Many times they simply do not know how much a ring can cost!

FH upgraded my ring -his idea beacuse he didn't understand the whole engagement ring/wedding band thing and when I explained he wanted to get the diamond ring he planned on getting me for the wedding ring. I loved my first e-ring because of what it meant not because of the size, but also love the new one because he had already picked it for me! It is sometimes hard to explain to people why we changed the ring though.

(1/2)I love your ring Future Mrs. A! I think it's beautiful! My ring is just over .5, and like the other brides have said, I wouldn't want it any bigger cause a-I kind of have small hands, and b-I would rather take a smaller diamond, with better clarity. The ring my FH got me is actually his grandmother's! His grandpa got the ring in 1952 from a store that was later bought out by Tiffany's. His grandpa got it for $300! I have to admit when my FH first told me about giving me his grandma's ring I was hesitiant. All I could picture in my mind was gaudy, and costume jewerly. But then he started telling me all the meaning behind the ring, and why he wanted to give it to me..I have some qualities that remind him of his grandma and he was really close with his grandma. He told me that he knows my style, and what I like and he wouldn't give me something he knows I wouldn't like. So, I put my trust in him, and I couldn't be happier with the outcome, and I'm honored to be wearing the

(2/2) ring, and I have a meaningful story to tell!

Girl, you don't know what the characteristics of those diamonds are. There are some 1 carat diamonds that are low quality. Mine is .85 but is nearly flawless!!!! I now because I took it to be appraised for insurance purposes. Some 1 carats are 1000 dollars!

Everything I was going to say has already been said. In the end, the outcome is the same...the ring is just a symbol. My FH bought me a 1 ct solitare, and it seems a tad over indulgent b/c I am a simple girl...but you also have to consider your point in life. We are older, been married before, etc. My 1st wedding ring, if you blinked you missed the rock....it was 1/8 ct. But it was the symbol of our love. Congrats!

If you love your ring, then just go with it! Later, maybe for an anniversary you can think about upgrading. ...and best of luck with student teaching! I finished up my student teaching last December! :-) 10th grade and 8th grade social studies-- YIKES!

I have to say I totally know what you mean. It seems that bigger is the way to go these days for the majority of people I know. When I first got an office job out west I thought I was going to be blinded by the bling of these young women. I guess it is just the way the trend is going. Everything is bigger and better in society these days. However, I agree with what everyone is saying. I don't blame you for feeling like you were out of touch, but it you like your ring, you like it. You picked it out and hopefully how others act won't take that away from you. I know it's hard to not be influenced, but it seems like you have a good head on your shoulders. Plus, once you get into the throws of wedding planning and see the $$$ you will be glad you kept to a budget you can afford. It's way smarter and really more people should be smart enough to start off a marriage on that right foot. Keep your head up and good luck!

Mine is small and that was exactly what I would have picked for myself I have very small hands and anything else looks like its on a child LOL I don't ever plan on changing out my stone or ring.. I may get another for my right hand at a 5 or 10 year anniversary but I feel that the ring you were married with means something extra special even if it were a cigar band it would mean more to me than any 5 carat diamond ring...

Mine isn’t very big but I love it and we picked it out together! It’s perfect for me! I have small hands and didn’t want a huge ring on my fingers plus I don’t wear much jewelry daily as it is… only when I’m going out. I do have girlfriends who boast about their big ROCK or that when they do get engaged they expect nothing les than 2cts. But to me in the end it’s more important that we love each and he wanted to marry me.

Future Mrs H, was it a party just after they had gotten engaged? If so the attention was naturally directed to the newly engaged couple. Don't take it personally at all. If the guy is Grade A husband material, then you came out ahead no matter the size of your ring. What matters is not the size of the ring, but if you love it and the man who gave it to you. Also if that is your ring in the picture above it is lovely and well proportioned. Why would you want something else when yours is so stunning?

Whoops that should be Future Mrs. A, my bad!

@Mrs. Carmack-I always laughed at my girlfriends who would see, "Oh I BETTER have at least x carats!" And yet they wouldn't even have a boyfriend when they'd say that. If I pushed the issue more, I could have had a bigger stone, but I enjoy the trips we take, the cars we drive, our house, and what not. Not saying we're loaded, but we're comfortable, and for the first time in my life I have not had to worry about money.

Have they said something to you? I just kind of got by the post that the sentiments you are feeling are that they are ignoring you and your wedidng plans and that you are attributing it to the fact that your ring is smaller. Could it also be the date of your wedding? Maybe they think it's too far away to be getting excited yet, instead of the ring. It doesn't stop you from being excited...but maybe they don't see it as imminent....

The size of the ring does not depict the length of the marriage. Can't lose sight of what's really important here....you are marrying the man of your dreams! I'd rather the man of my dreams than a silly rock of my dreams.....however lucky me because I feel like I got both!