Did your FH ask your dad/mom/grandparents.. anyone before proposing?

My H didn't "ask" necessarily, but he did let my dad, my mom, and my brother know his intentions, and asked for their blessing. He might have framed it as a question, but it was not like he was truly asking permission or that he would have not proposed if they said no. (And of course no way would they have said no, they like him more than they like me lol.)

I feel like it was a major sign of respect to my parents and my big brother, and it made me really happy. That's exactly what I would have wanted if I had planned it myself.

No. He was supposed to ask for their blessing (his mom told him, I told him) because it just, I dunno, means something to me, like Kris said. But my mom had said "You're gonna do whatever you want anyway, so what's the point in asking?" So he was like, eff it, I'm proposing.

But he did get their blessing/approval after the fact. Eh.

No one knew about my FI proposing except for my best friend and his mother and his step-dad. My mom knew he bought a ring (he proposed on v-tine's day of 2011) but didn't expect to ask me to marry him. My mom and I had just gotten home from work she was outside and he asked me (we were in our bedroom, we lived with my mom when we got engaged). I sent my dad a picture through my phone of the ring and said he proposed (my mom and dad live seperately they were never married) He called me and was as happy as can be. My FI doesn't stick by much tradition even though I know it's a nice gesture. But like my mom and dad weren't offended or anything.

Nope! He figured I can make my own decisions and that's exactly what my parents would say if he asked them! We aren't a super traditional family, though. We loves us some tradition, but it's usually ones we've made ourselves.

Didn't stop my dad from giving him some good natured grief, though!

I think if it's important to you, like it was, that it was important that your FH do it. Everyone has different priorities and feelings about this. I definitely think asking parents is starting to go out the door, but I imagine it will remain around for a long time still!

Yeah, even a blessing would be good... At least your parents/family knew it was coming. They're parents had/have NO idea that the guys were going to propose.

And my cousin thinks her parents will be okay with it, but she's unsure. Now that would make me nervous.

And my friends parents have just started coming around to liking her FH, that's why i'm surprised he wouldn't ask them first.. Either way i'm sure he would have still proposed, but it's nice to have their approval!

@ Robin - I totally agree... My cousin did say tho after he proposed she asked if he asked her parents and he said no.. and she was disapointed. Like, I made sure my FH kenw it was important to me.. I don't know, I don't think it's a bad thing that they didn't, but at least a heads up or something! haha

No.. I have a strange family situation.. it's polite but given the circumstances, it wasn't a big deal.. and nothing to do on his part.

My FH asked my Dad, my Mom and my Step-Dad (all separately, but it's a really funny story)... and the only one that gave him a "hard" time about it was my Step-Dad... my Mom cried and said yes, and my Dad was apparently an emotional basket case and ran around the restaurant to tell everyone and show complete strangers the ring. I love my family :-)

He did not, we told them together instead. Honestly I felt that was much more appropriate for us and our situation. I would have been disappointed if he chosen to follow this tradition.

@ Megan - that's a cute story!!!

Yeah, like I mentioned in my post.. My family situation was kind of weird too, I was barely talking to my dad..

I guess I'm even more surprised because these two girls are super close with their parents! i guess it just surprised me a little bit!

Aww yes my FH asked both my mom & dad as did my sisters FH. so cute!

My FH did not ask my parents. A couple years ago before he was FH we were joking around saying I could move back into my parents house if we ever broke up and my dad told him that he better take that statement back and I was his problem now. So FH took that as he had his blessing to propose and marry me. No one in my family knew it was coming. The only people were his mom, dad, sister (the day of), and people at his work. Oh and 2 of his parents friends. I called my mom when I was crying and freaked her out until I told her. She was with my sister and they came right over.

I am very close to my parents too, Dana! I did feel that it might be weird for my parents to be the ones to say whether it's a good match or not. That is a decision I was happy to make for myself.

I texted them that night (since we are in a different time zone and I would have woken them) and called them in the morning to make sure they knew! I don't know how, but they did guess my news!

I guess it's something you should make clear to whoever you're dating when you think the time might be coming up. It think it's good for the guy to ask who he's planning on marrying what she thinks about the tradition, since you can never do it again!

@Megan- I love your family too! That's such a spectacular reaction from your dad!

He tried, but he couldnt get them alone. my parents had come down to va from ny for my 30th birthday in february. they werent offended, thank goodness.

He didn't -- after he bought the ring, he talked to my little brother who told him my dad and I would think it was weird if he asked for my dad's blessing, so I think it kind of threw him off lol and then he didn't want to talk to my mom/stepdad (our relationship isn't as close). It might've been a nice touch, but wasn't super important to me.

Yeah he asked my dad - that's how I pretty much knew it was coming because he literally asked me to set up something with my dad and I knew that his father raised him to ask the father for permission

@ Robin - I completely agree... If they never talked about it before and the guys didn't know, then it's okay... I was just wondering what other people have done..and i kind of knew it would be coming within the year and that's when i brought it up.. These two girls had NO idea... Which I find awesome, that it was even more of a surprise!

And nowadays i'm sure most parents wouldn't be offended..

My FH asked my parent's permission, would he have proposed anyways-yes, but he knew that showing them the respect of asking would be appreciated by them and by me.

My sister's DH asked permission as well.

Yes, my FH asked my dad for permission about 2 months before he proposed to me. My dad said it was so hard to keep it from the rest of my family!

I have to admit that my FH didn't ask my parents before he proposed. My parents have always said right if front of FH "You don't have to ask us, you can just have our daughter." So what we did was a few short hours after he proposed, we went to see my family and while we were there my dad said something about dating losers and I told him that I never had to worry about that and whipped out my left hand and said "I'm getting married!" My mom, niece and I cried like little school girls.

Don't judge me just because I didn't "follow the rules" of proposing.

Yes he did. He went to my parent's house the Friday before Christmas and told them that he had gotten me a gift and wondered what they thought about it. He then showed them the ring, and I guess it took a second for my parents to rrealize what he was getting at. Then my dad gave him a big hug and told him that he was excited to finally be able to call him son (my dad is such a sweetie); and I guess my mom got a little misty eyed.