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Bella
Just Said Yes August 2021

Did you pick out your own ring?

Bella, on June 25, 2020 at 3:34 PM

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I’m curious how other couples picked out their rings. Did you find what you wanted and send it to your FH? Did you give him an idea of what you wanted and then just cross your fingers? If you picked it out together did he propose first without a ring? It feels like a big deal to just hand off to FH...
I’m curious how other couples picked out their rings. Did you find what you wanted and send it to your FH? Did you give him an idea of what you wanted and then just cross your fingers? If you picked it out together did he propose first without a ring? It feels like a big deal to just hand off to FH and just be like - “Good luck!” 😂

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  • Anna
    VIP October 2020
    Anna ·
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    I would’ve let him pick it himself, though I had given my friend some ideas to send his way, but before she could my FH asked me what I would like, said he was overwhelmed by the choices. So he and I sat on my grandmas couch and scoured Etsy. And then I was okay with giving him a few choices, but he had me pick my exact ring. Guess it takes a little pressure off him, if I decide I don’t like it then I’m to blame not him. But I’ll always love it.
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  • Julie
    VIP February 2020
    Julie ·
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    We were kind of all over the place with this. We talked about getting engaged for a while, and then suddenly on the 23rd of Dec 2018, he said that he wanted to get engaged and that "I looked at rings, and I now know enough to know that you need to pick it out." When he got the ring, he waited to give it to me until new years eve day. The ring ended up being too tall, (I work in research with gloves, etc, and it would tear through everything) so we just exchanged it after our wedding a few months ago.

    The first one was an emerald cut solitaire diamond on platinum and prongs.

    "New" but actually vintage ring:

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  • L
    Devoted July 2022
    L ·
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    Yes and no. My fiancee picked it out. I told her what I like, and she told me her ideas, and found a few rings that she then had me comment on/choose from. So I didn't do the searching, but I made the final decision.

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  • Jay
    Dedicated September 2021
    Jay ·
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    I don't have my "official" ring right now but when we finally go to get one (whenever covid allows us/we feel okay going into a store!) we'll be picking it out together. I'm almost definitely going non-traditional--I don't like diamonds & have plenty of rings with stones that I never wear, so I'm leaning toward a small stone or maybe no stone at all! But I'm mostly just excited to go try things on Smiley laugh

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  • Sexypoodle
    Master October 2021
    Sexypoodle ·
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    For my first marriage, I wanted to pick the ring out and my ex I always knew that. So he proposed without a ring. But I was a little overbearing about it and wanted a specific custom-made setting, a specific diamond shape, carat weight etc. (just ridiculous 🤦🏽‍♀️). Looking back, I hate that I did that because he had absolutely nothing to do with the ring at all and it really took that whole experience away from him. So from all that, I truly learned firsthand that a ring is just a symbol and it does not make the marriage.


    So fast forward... with FH, I never brought up anything about a ring or ring style . Of course, I had an idea of what I wanted in my mind. But I never said anything because I wanted him to put his own heart and thought into it... and for it to truly be from him. Actually, we never even went ring shopping. So I had no idea that FH was going to propose (only my parents knew). It was SO much more exciting, meaningful and unexpected that way. And, to top it off, FH selected the perfect ring that was very similar to what I had in mind. So it all worked out! Now that I’ve been on both sides, I am definitely a fan of letting the guy handle the ring!!
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  • Margaret
    Master October 2020
    Margaret ·
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    My FH picked the ring on his own and I absolutely love the ring! He knows me and my style so well and sometimes better than myself.


    If we’d picked it together I don’t think it would’ve been as big a surprise- he and his son both proposed to me together!
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  • Lisa
    Rockstar July 2022
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    My fiance and I had never discussed rings or even getting engaged. The proposal was a total surprise! At the time of the proposal, he gave me a ring he picked out with my birthstone in it, and then we went and picked out a new ring together a month or so later. I still have both, and I wear them both (I wear the one with my birthstone on my right hand).
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  • Sarah
    Super August 2021
    Sarah ·
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    I picked mine out. My fiance had been very upfront for months that he wanted to marry me so one day we went into a store to "size" my finger for whenever it did happen. We decided to look around, he was very nervous about picking one out himself because it is a big purchase and of course he wanted me to love it. I found one I love and he ended up buying it on the spot. Little did I know that buying it was his plan the whole time he just had to trick me a little I had no idea it was coming right then lol.
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  • Izzy
    Savvy October 2020
    Izzy ·
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    He wanted to be absolutely sure I liked the ring beforehand so we went shopping together. I didn’t even have a set idea of what I wanted so it was an experience for both of us. We hit all the rings shops in the mall and I fell in love with my now engagement ring 😁
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  • Lisa
    Beginner October 2021
    Lisa ·
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    My FH did that too! He surprised me with his mother’s ring and I wore that until we picked out my forever ring! It was special this way and he didn’t have the pressure of figuring out exactly what I wanted Smiley smile
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  • Caitlynn
    Just Said Yes September 2020
    Caitlynn ·
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    We went browsing together, got an idea of what I liked, then he went back himself and got the final ring. So I was surprised but was still able to give my input. Smiley smile
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  • Savvy August 2020
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    I gave him lots of ideas, LOL! He asked what kind of ring and I sent him pics and we also browsed at the mall a few times. Then the final time, I narrowed it down to two rings I liked and told him to surprise me...but then once we got home, I knew which one I liked best and just asked for that one lol

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  • Brittany
    Dedicated March 2021
    Brittany ·
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    So apparently my husband brought me a ring that I liked on Instagram... I had sent him post from the jeweler in the past and I guess he just went of the style I liked the most and picked the one he liked the most. So in a way I guess I picked my ring lol
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  • Jasmine
    Rockstar August 2021
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    Some friends and I were at my FH's college graduation which was held at a mall (way better than it sounds lol). He had a mutual friend walk me into a jewelry store before the graduation started. She was getting married at the time so I didn't think anything of it. She asked me what my dream ring would be and eventually she got me to open up (I'm still thinking we were there for her). It was FH's plan all along because when he ended up proposing to me 7 months later and opened the box, there it was! He said he wanted to do it right and made sure I got my perfect ring.

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  • Pirate & 60s Bride
    Legend March 2017
    Pirate & 60s Bride ·
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    His mother’s ring? How sweet!


    It was amazing because I was SHOCKED. I felt we were ready to get married and figured we would talk about marriage in a few months (Christmas time). But he popped the question during his birthday weekend months earlier so I’d be surprised. Oh I was. 😍
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  • Reena
    Expert February 2021
    Reena ·
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    I picked out my ring. We both agreed that since I will be wearing it daily then I need to happy with it. I even went with him when he picked it up. The proposal was still a surprise. I figured out it was coming once we got to the location, but I had no clue before then.
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  • Reena
    Expert February 2021
    Reena ·
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    That’s adorable!
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  • Jaymee
    Just Said Yes January 2021
    Jaymee ·
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    We actually picked it out together! We both looked a little on our own but one day on a whim we decided to go into a store together and both fell in love with my ring. BUT he kept it from me for quite a while after. Left me in suspense! Anytime we would dress up and go somewhere nice I just knew it was going to happen and then it didn’t lol. When I finally gave up thinking it was going to happen he then surprised me when I least expected it!
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  • W
    Super September 2020
    Willow ·
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    We designed my ring together. When it was ready, he picked it up in his own and surprised me with the "official" proposal


    We're now in the process of designing his ring
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  • Gabbie
    Dedicated May 2021
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    I bought both rings on etsy for $100, then i sent myself 200 over from his account 😂😂
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