Did we just got B Listed!!!!

Don't take offense. We were forced to B list people that we really wanted there because our families are so big. We didn't think many of our family members would come from far away, but in case they did - and to keep in accordance with fire code - we had to have a B list. It sucks, and I feel bad as a bride - but we had to do it. Don't take any offense - the bride probably feels bad to, but wants you there. She just likely has an obligation to invite family (even if she never sees them) over friends. A full 120 people on our list our family members. I doubt that they will all come, but we can't be certain.

@centerpiece - right on point! As always of course..

I know a lot of venues and vendors require a certain number so I am just hoping that isn't what it is. Being B-listed because family came first I totally understand! While we were planning we took a huge risk and decided to really over invite instead of doing B-Listing because we knew people would RSVP no, we ended up being over head count but it all worked out just fine!

The timing is bugging DH but he wants to go and thankfully I'll get to see my best friend for the whole weekend so it all works!

I'd do what Valerie said hahhahaha

@mallory, I totally get it. Sounds like you're wanting them to do you the courtesy of acknowledging that this is a last minute thing, because it feels sort of weird for it to be unspoken. It feels a bit like pulling a fast one on you, when to them they probably think it would've been rude to mention the fact that you're only getting invites due to other people declining. I think the timing is not quiiite last minute enough for that to necessary. If it was past the RSVP date or something, then they would obviously need to say something. Sounds like a pretty perfect situation, though! Glad that worked out for you!

I meaaaannnn probably buuuut im still sending out invitations/asking for addresses and the RSVP's are due on april 20th.. its the 9th lol just lazy. whoops. so maybe not!

I with you Chloe. I only sent STDs to my family and those who would be travelling from out of state.

Sometimes people only send STDs out to OOT guests. I wouldn't read too much into it. Basing your decision to go on a scenario you created in your head (and may not be true) doesn't seem fair on your end.

Probably, but I did not send a STD to everyone we are inviting to the wedding- just the ones I really wanted there.

I don't get why people get offended by B lists. At least you made the cut at all. Also, not everyone is great at the organization skills it takes to be on top of addresses, Std's and invitations. Maybe she's just sending them out late. My guess is probably not- but who cares!

Well at least you got an actual invite. The last time I was B-listed I was invited two weeks before the wedding via text message so I'm pretty sure that was more like D-listed

Maybe they really wanted to invite you but had to wait for someone FMIL insisted would absolutely come to decline so they wouldn't go over their max. I'm having a small family wedding but I have a b list of friends if family declines. But I let them all know beforehand that if there's room they'll get an invitation like two weeks before.

Yes, you were on the b list but what's the problem? If you were ok with them needing to make cuts and not including you, why aren't you ok with being at the very top of those people not included, and them being excited to include you when they realized they were able? I know a lot of people are super offended but I have no problem with them, assuming they are not extremely close friends or family.

I met my FH at a wedding I was B-listed for, so I'm all for going if you want to. Obviously since you are married, this wouldn't be the exact case for you, but you may, at the very least, have a great time and meet some cool people.