Did I miss the memo about white at wedding?

If wearing black to a wedding is tacky, I'm SOL. My dress is black, and the next wedding I'm attending as a guest I'm wearing black...

My best friend obviously knows that my dress is black and asked me if it would be weird if she wore a white dress to my wedding. I told her I personally didn't care, but that people would probably side-eye her (95% of the guests don't know I'm not wearing white).

I think it's incredibly rude and tacky, but I consistently see people do it.

I honestly dont care at all and feel like its a really bridezilla thing to think, "no one should distract from ME!" Like girl. Sit down. You're the bride. No one is going to get confused or suddenly possessed by a white dress and start following around the wrong girl.

I personally wouldn't wear white to another's wedding, but that's just me. And I love black, it's usually my go to color for anything. So I didn't realize people thought that was tacky.

"I honestly dont care at all and feel like its a really bridezilla thing to think, "no one should distract from ME!" Like girl. Sit down. You're the bride. No one is going to get confused or suddenly possessed by a white dress and start following around the wrong girl."

So much this!!!

I was taught never to wear white, red, or black to anyone's wedding. I've seen video's on Facebook of weddings where everyone is dressed in white so I'd say it could be seen as not a big deal to some. I personally would be pissed if anyone wore white to mine.

Well alot more people aren't wearing traditional white dresses, so some people don't really care anymore. I personally wouldn't wear white to a wedding, but won't stop others from doing it.

I get that on one will confuse the bride for a guest dressed in white, but to me its just common courtesy. It is incredibly rude to push that envelope, especially when the bride has bent over backward to accomodate everyone at her wedding. I mean the couple is spending how many thousands of dollars to host everyone, the least a guest could do is show up dressed appropriately--and a non-white dress (or non-red if the bride's culture wears red for the wedding day) is part of that dress code.

@Silver i also wouldn't wear white to a wedding, but i think what i refer more to are the people that post on here being like "HELP! My friend/FMIL/cousin/dog wants to wear champagne to my wedding and that's ALMOST WHITE and omg help me change their mind!!". I agree, most people will avoid the typically chosen color of distinguish, which i think is mostly out of courtesy. If it's a close friend/family member's wedding, I'll even try to avoid the wedding party color if i can help it, but that's not really necessary.

I saw that at like two weddings this summer and I was so appalled. I would never wear white to someone else's wedding. I don't know not something I would do but maybe it's changing.

As a bride, I don't think I would care at all if somebody wore white to my wedding.

As a guest- I would totally judge the hell out of them. I think it is super rude and kind of a middle finger to the bride. Like, there are millions of other colors to wear, why would you pick one that may cause hurt feelings (even if it ultimately doesn't). Why risk it?

Of course some guests will always be oblivious, but I've also seen this done intentionally. 2 years ago we were at a wedding where the bride's sister (not in the wedding party) wore an all white lace dress. Someone actually said to her "I thought you're not supposed to wear white..." and she admitted she did it on purpose because she should be getting married, not her sister. The sister is 5 years younger and apparently you're supposed to get married in age order? I think it's still a big no-no, but I also wouldn't really care if someone wore white to my wedding because it would just reflect poorly on them. I also want to point out that depending on how casual the wedding is, a guest COULD be mistaken for the bride. My cousin's second wedding was a very casual backyard affair and she wore a white skater style dress from Marshall's. There was nothing elaborate about it to indicate that she was the bride. We tend to think of brides as girls in big cupcake dresses, but this isn't always the case.

Honestly, I always side-eye the shit out of people when they wear white to a wedding. I honestly have no idea what most people wore to mine. I wasn't paying attention, and it's clearly far from the most important thing. However, I just don't understand why people do that. It seems like common sense.

I accidentally wore white to a wedding reception once. I was out to dinner with two friends who had been invited to a wedding, the bride kept texting the friends we were out with to please stop by for a little bit and he had told her "We're out with friends" and she had told him to just bring us too and stop for a beer. They were well into the reception by the time we arrived, it was about 10pm. I hadn't even wanted to go inside because I was wearing a white sundress and boots. One of the groomsmen came up to be and verbally abused me for what I was wearing, calling me trash etc. I left in tears.

Moral of the story: someone will always side eye anyone besides the bride wearing white. Just don't do it.

Curious - I attended one of my cousins' weddings when I was like 12 and in my tomboy phase and hated dresses. I remember arguing with my mom about the dress she was making me wear to the wedding and I ended up compromising with a white dress with blue straps and blue polka dots all over.

When people say no white to weddings, does that include white dresses with prints/patterns on them? I have always wondered to this day if I made myself look like an idiot haha.

I am outside of NYC, and at least 1/4 of every guest list is in black, every week....

@Celia - i think the black dress is the most baffling to me. People aren't supposed to wear their "little black dress" to a wedding? I don't know, sounds weird. Like, I guess I can follow the "logic" behind the white thing (even if I think it's silly), but I really don't understand the black thing.

What about guys in black suits? Is that not okay? Is it just a black dress thing? Can a guy wear a white suit, if it's just a dress thing?

It just brings up too many new questions!

I don't care if someone wears white unless its a dress that looks similar to a wedding dress.

I would never wear white to a wedding! I mean, you won't be confused for the bride but still I think it's a faux pas. I hope no one does it at my wedding but I don't think I'll care enough to comment on it.

I wouldn't do it but I doubt I'd care if someone wore white to mine. If the dress looks bridal, thats obviously a different story but if its just a plain white dress, I dont care.