Did I miss the memo about white at wedding?

I guess some people just don't care nowadays about etiquette.:/ but I guess it's ok if the bride didn't choose white because that does seem to be happening a lot lately

I'm with Elizabeth. It's a dated rule along with the rule that the mother of the groom's hat can't be bigger than the mother of the bride's. I would most likely not notice if someone wore white to my wedding. Unless someone shows up in a wedding gown, I doubt anyone will mistake them for the bride.

I'm hoping that no one wears white to my wedding, I would be kind of irritated. If someone did I wouldn't go all bridezilla on them but still. Not a huge deal but still kinda tacky.

I am not a southern belle by any regard and didn't know most of the etiquette issues before I came on here however....I feel it's common sense that only a bride wears white to a wedding?! Why is this concept even confusing for anybody...

I wouldn't wear white to another persons wedding because you don't know who it will irritate and who it won't. There is a thousand other opens. Not sure if it would bother me but I wouldn't want to upset anyone on their day.

I think its tacky, but feel people don't know any better. There are brides out there that request guest wear white so individuals can honestly be confused..lol

"I feel it's common sense that only a bride wears white to a wedding?! Why is this concept even confusing for anybody..."

I doubt they're confused. They just know this is an outdated rule.

As long as they aren't there to object, I could care less about the color they choose. I'm not wearing white not a big deal to me.

Well, if it's a casual wedding- the bride might wear a light white sundress. That's all. So, just use your best judgement- and if you're not sure- ask the bride! She probably would appreciate being asked beforehand. But many people wear black to weddings because most people look good in black.

I wore a long cream dress the

Other day and someone said I could wear it to a friends wedding. NO! They said it was fine because it was "cream" not white. No absolutely not

I think some people are ignorant to know the proper etiquette. I find it tacky and very disrespectful.

Reminds me of The Office. lol

I always heard "Don't wear white at weddings and only wear black for funerals."

People I tell ya. I can top this story though. My own mother wore a lacy white long dress with a train to my brother's wedding. Yes, you read it right. The mother of the groom. She had it custom made too. It's not like she didn't have a dress and last minute that was all she had so she had to go for it. Nope. She had her dress custom made 6 months earlier. When we went dress shopping for that wedding she was like I want lace I want ivory. I told her that is extremely rude, her sisters and nieces told her not to do it. And her response to everyone was always "what are you guys talking about? There's nothing wrong with that. It's not white. It's ivory. Totally different."

I'm sure my sister in law was extremely pissed but she's too nice to say anything. I don't think my brother said anything either. Or if they did I never heard about it. If she pulls this at my wedding, she will be held at the door.

My FH just said "no one should wear white to someone else's wedding, unless there are other accents or colors on the dress." Personally, I don't care if someone wears white on my big day. They're still not going to look as fabulous as me : )

Honestly I never knew about this rule until my aunt said something last week. I was just like "oh"

The fact that a guest is wearing white is actually not an issue. This does not affect comfort and safety of your guests so for me, it's not really an etiquette rule. More of a fashion faux pas, and as such is not an issue for me at all.

As long as they don't show up in a wedding dress I'm fine with it. And when did wearing black become tacky?? I love wearing black...

I don't think it's an outdated rule - I've had several people ask me if it's okay to wear a white dress if it has some color in it. I also had someone if it was okay if she wore black. First I've ever heard of that - I've worn black to probably 75% of the weddings I've been to haha

I don't understand the idea of spending any amount of time worrying about what my guests wore. If they feel good in a white dress, that's what matters to me.

Hell, if they wore the same exact dress as me, I'd insist on pictures.