We just had our DW with 80+ guests in Punta Cana last weekend and it was amazing! Only 1/3 of the guests gave us gifts/cards, and I know for DW people say “their presence is their gift,” and we def expected we wouldn’t get cards from everyone (I personally always give a gift even when flying and traveling far), but I was kind of hurt that specific people did not give gifts (or at least a card), like 4/6 of my bridesmaids. The only 2 who gave gifts were my sister and husbands sister (both poor college students). I actually didn’t even expect gifts from them! Shockingly, people who we’re less close with gave gifts and ‘closer’ friends didn’t!
I spent over $400 on each BM including their dress, hair/make-up, meal/drinks for wedding, Swarovski crystal jewelry, tote bag, a snorkeling excursion (we paid for ALL our wedding guests snorkeling boat excursion day after wedding as another event). Actually only 1 of them even thanked me in person for anything! I even booked my MOH’s hotel room for her to save her money, and then she had to stay with my husband and I in our hotel room 2 nights after our wedding for free because she didn’t figure out a room situation her last night before flying home! I just feel really unappreciated by them. I was in one of my BM’s weddings, but 2 of them have never been in a wedding before and maybe they aren’t sure about etiquette.
Has anyone else had a big DW (or any wedding) and just felt so unappreciated by close friends?! I’m not searching for “gifts” but I don’t think an in-person thank you or a card is an unreasonable expectation from such good friends :-/
I searched articles online and literally every one says to bring a gift/card even if you go to a DW, even if it’s $25...and if you can’t afford a $25 gift, you should reconsider your finances because you probably can’t afford a $1000 DW trip- so true!