Day after wedding- Sleep or Brunch??

If it's like an official day after brunch, you pay.

I would choose sleep any day.

If you can't afford to do it and want to sleep in, you can skip it. I have been to several weddings that had a hosted brunch and it was great, but I have been to many more that did not have one.

Just putting myself in your shoes and having to imagine hosting another gathering after my wedding makes me anxious. *grabs bottle of wine* The only "pro"s I can see are for your OOT guests, not for you.

My MIL graciously hosted and paid for ours--we did not want to have one, but she did, and offered to pay for it since it meant so much to her. honestly, we were so wiped out and tired and didn't want to go, but in the end it was kind of nice. we got to connect with a few more people we hadn't spoken with enough on the big day. my advice would be to make sure whatever you decide you and H aren't doing any of the prep--hire a caterer, or go to a restaurant, etc. the last thing you'll want to do the next morning is clean or cook or pick anything up. if i had it to do over again, i would've probably been firmer about not doing a brunch--it was nice, but not that nice.

We slept. Said our goodbyes after hotel check out. If you are hosting the brunch, you foot the bill.

Unfortunately, if you are hosting it and inviting everyone to join you, you pay the bill. Our wedding planner had us look at a brunch spot for $30 per person plus tax and tip and told us with our wedding size, we could expect about 100 people to show. She was very inclusive, lol. Nope nope nope. H and I decided we didn’t want to be committed to anything like that because of hangovers and stuff we needed to get done before we moved so we slept in, had brunch together, and had dinner with my parents later. It was perfect. I’d say the biggest pro is you get to hang out with all your OOT guests; the biggest con is it is extremely tricky to find a way to meet up with everyone without being the hosts and recipient of the bill

We did a brunch the morning after our wedding. Really, pretty much every wedding I've ever been to has had a morning after brunch. If you can afford it, its a really nice touch.

I am choosing sleep.

Rehearsal dinner and wedding day will be a handful as it is

The last wedding I went to did a word of mouth "we're going to the cheesecake factory in the morning if anyone wants to come" sort of thing so everyone paid their own way. I thought that was cheesy. If you are going to do a brunch, host it. If not, it's fine to skip it.

My parents really wanted a brunch, so they planned and paid for it. They knew the only way to get H and me there was to make it convenient for us. They had it in the hotel we stayed in on our wedding night. The hotel was affiliated with a local celebrity chef, so the food was delish. We got to sleep in and have brunch. Win win.

The brunches I went to were hosted by relatives of the bride and groom, not by the bride and groom themselves.

My nephew did a brunch at 10:00 am the next day for all of us OOT guests. It was very nice to spend a little more time with the newlyweds and other family members before our 13 hour drive home. If you can afford it, I truly don't see a down side. However if it's not in the budget then it's not a question to not do it.

I'm thinking to do lunch with the bridesmaids and family members that stay around the area. But I don't think I'll formally host it. Maybe just through words of mouth..

We are having a BBQ/cookout in the late afternoon to the evening

About 40% of our wedding are staying at the same hotel as us the night of the wedding with breakfast included in the cost. So we've said we'll be down at the breakfast at 9am, and anyone who wants to join us can but if they want to sleep that fine.

We hosted brunch at my in-laws' place; I just went to Costco and got eggs, bacon, bread rolls and pancake mix. DH and his dad cooked the eggs and bacon on the BBQ, and one of DH's cousins volunteered to cook the pancakes otherwise I would have done it. For us it was a really nice way to spend a bit more time with OOT guests, even though I had a splitting headache (think it was from having my hair pulled up so tightly!). Cost us about $150-$200 I think.

We are choosing sleep. However, we are hosting a welcome reception for everyone the Friday before the wedding with a full dinner and dessert. So we don't have guilt about it.

We got to bed at 6am night if wedding. Went down to talk to guests leaving the hotel by 10am back to bed by lunch time. Had arranged an evening in the restaurant/pub we met in from 8 that evening. Went on untill the wee hours again. Somehow for your wedding the adrenaline keeps you going and tiredness didn't come into it ( we also met guests in the hotel the night before the wedding was there until 12am!).had a great few days.. We crashed out on our honeymoon though and just relaxed!

I just went across the country for one of my best friends weddings. They hosted donuts and coffee the morning after. They put it on their wedding website and said "drop by for a quick hello, coffee, and donut, before you hit the road". Everyone had drove at least a few hours or flew in. It was really laid back and nice to be able to see them and chat for a few more minutes. They had it at the outside private courtyard of the grooms hotel in town. The donuts were amazing and they had two baristas making coffee for everyone. I'm sure this was cheaper than brunch.

I love my sleep but I'm now planning on doing something like this. I know not everyone will come but I think it'll be a great opportunity to see people again. Especially since the wedding day will fly by.

We slept until like 11am. There was no chance of us doing anything with anyone that day.