day after brunch- what to do

I personally don't feel it is necessary and if your budget won't allow it that to me is a good enough reason to go without. Explain to the set of parents who feels it is necessary that it is just not within your budget so unless you are able to find a cheaper option you both would prefer to sleep in and enjoy your first night / morning being married.

We are including a "ticket" in the out of town bags saying we are having brunch at such and such and would love for you to join us. That way we only pay for people who actually come as opposed to everyone. This way if they are tired and just want to sleep in or leave they are free to do so and you aren't paying for food that won't be eaten...

Our parents both feel the brunch is totally unneccesary, I think it's a newer trend with weddings these days for the industry to capitalize on couple more. Nonetheless, we want it so we're going to do it. Try and negotiate with the resort/hotel especially if your wedding was there...its like added money for them so they should incentivize you to do it.

Not have it at all. As a guest I would find this un nessary. I like to wake up at the last time possible to get on the road, FH never eats breakfast and it's much easier to grab timmies and drive (or McD breakfast for all you un Canadians out there, McDonalds has a pretty sweet coffee lid, but Timmies bagles are my b-fast of choice when travelling)

Tell the set of parents that says it's necessary that they are out of their minds. Traditionally, the newly married couple leaves early from their own reception and is not seen again after that. Anything else would be scandalous, as it would suggest that the "pleasures of marriage" were not a novelty to them.

Obviously, these days, the pleasures of marriage are not a novelty to many of us. But you can still rely on the old traditions when necessary to deal with parents. LOL

The morning after brunch, at least in TX, has connections way back to the mid-1800's when a meal and gift opening occurred before guests headed home, often on long buggy rides, the next day. We have a morning after frock in our collection, presented a few years ago by 90 yr old granddaughter. We occasionally host these brunches, always casual with pastries, fruit, quiches, jc & coffee, nice goodbyes for family/friends who may seldom see one another.

We told everyone that brunch was at the hotel the next morning. we would pay for who ever was there when we were thank good it wasn't alot just my parents aunt & uncle and my sister her friend and my brother

I cant decide whether or not have a brunch. My wedding is on a Friday so i feel like a bruch or something is necessary for out of town guests.

I don't think they are necessary at all. It is not something that is normally done in our culture. About 20 rooms have been booked for Cate's wedding. Most of them are people who don't want to drive drunk. The venue provides a comp breakfast, however, it is underwhelming(Think Comfort Inn style). Since the ex is paying for the the reception(We are doing Cate's RD attire, Day of Attire and the extras.), and her ILs are hosting the Rehearsal Dinner. DH and I were toying with the idea of hosting a brunch. The venue's restaurant offer's a champagne brunch for about $17 a head. We would only invite guests who spent the night. The only thing that concerns us is that neither one of us wants to be up, out and looking good the morning after and neither does the bride.

Wow, even more occasions I never knew about. LoL the next morning we are actually heading out so I dont see it as necessary, and also if your budget wont allow it, dont stress yourself.

It's not necessary. We are doing one...but we are not hosting it. We are just inviting folks to join us for a brunch if they would like. 80% of our guests are out of state, so it's another opportunity to visit before they make the trek back home. =)

Thanks guys! I think we are going to go with Jens Idea, since its a semi-destination wedding, it would be nice to see everyone before we leave and I'm only inviting those who stay over. wheeew once more thing to cross off the list.

I don't think people expect it but something is always nice. When my cousin got married they had an "optional" brunch the morning after where the guests paid if they wanted to join. Nobody seemed to mind. I don't think there is anything wrong with that.

For our wedding location there isn't really a place to do a full sit down breakfast that isn't Ponderosa or a diner, but we have an amazing local bakery, so we were thinking of having pastries, breakfast croissants and donuts delivered to a meeting room the next morning for everyone to partake in.

We are doing a brunch the next morning but we are hosting it ourselves and its going to be very, very casual, laid back. Our guests have a 4-5 hr drive home so we figure a hearty breakfast after they check out of their hotels will give them the fuel to get home.

We were toying with the idea of paying our caterer to come back and make brunch but she wanted $25/ person and a guarunteed headcount... but we recognize that some people may just want to get on the road and head home. We are going to do a make your own waffle bar, breakfast meat, a few quiches, some baked goods, fresh fruit and juice and call it a brunch =). Oh yeah and I'm decapitating my flowers so I can make this super cute table decor =).

We did a day after brunch for my daughters wedding. But it was no-host. We only invited the immediate family members and the bridal party. So, at the most, 16 guests. Not everyone could make it, so there were 8.

We selected a menu with three options, all at the same price, and let everyone know that in advance. The price included the gratuity as well as a portion of the bride and grooms portion of the tab.

They opened their gifts at the brunch.

I've always enjoyed the next day brunch, but the 3 I've been to have all been SUPER casual. It's great to see everyone again with bad hair and sleepy eyes ordering coffee all around. It's a chance to re-live the night and hear the stories of the parts you missed. The first time, the bride's parents picked up the check. The other two times were at hotels that offered free breakfast buffets, so everyone who was staying at the hotel went. I've never received an invite for breakfast, it just kind of happens.