Crazy aunt, cousins and refusing to attend the wedding(!!) - what to do ??

Absolutely nothing.

Your wedding means you invite whoever you want to invite. Your guests, any and all guests can accept or decline the invitation. But the guest list is not subject to negotiation and ultimatums. Or at least it shouldn't be.

Let your aunt calm down and talk to your uncle. Send the invitation as you were planning and hope for the best!

Agree with Mrs. S. Invite who you want to invite. Your aunt should have no input and she definitely should NOT be giving you an ultimatum.

It sounds like an empty threat to me. Agree with the others.

Since you really just want your uncle there, I would send the invite and let her make whatever decision she chooses. If she comes ok. If she doesn't great.

What Mrs. S said -- your wedding, your guest list, if she doesn't come, doesn't sound like she'll be missed. I wouldn't even talk to the uncle, it's between the two of them if one or both of them attend, don't bring that fight to yourself.

Oh, and check your caller ID before you answer the phone.

Lol. Weddings just bring out the crazy in some...well....add to the crazy in others. Hmmm. It is your wedding and it is your choice. Give it some time...she may come around. If not, have a chat with your uncle.

If she doesn't want to come... good riddance. The last thing you need is negative energy at your wedding.

Yeah, just send an invitation to your uncle and his wife like you were planning. If he decides not to come because she's being crazy, there's really nothing you can do about that. But definitely don't give into her demands. You can invite whoever you want and it's none of her business!

Thanks to you all

This is why I avoid her at every opportunity.

You don't need negativity at your wedding. Let her be a pill somewhere else.

Yeah. Ignore ignore ignore. Sounds just like my aunt but at least your had the cahones to actually call. I'm having someone call cops if she just shows up.

Yeah, no negative vibes on one of the most happiest days of your life

I agree with what J&B and Mrs. S said.

If they come..fine, if not..the wedding shall go on! Your life shouldnt change because of their issues.

Thats stupid. Don't let her saddle you with her problems. Take it from someone who has so far had one heck of a family drama ridden wedding planning experience, invite who you want and tell everyone else "nanner nanner"

Carry on as usual. She'll fall in line. She has some big cojones to say such things.

If she doesn't come, that is her loss and if your uncle agrees; well it is his loss as well.

Seems like its better if she doesn't come....don't talk to her about it again (your guest list or wedding for that matter) but i would send an invite as intended and hope she doesn't come....smh

Mrs. S said it perfectly.

Agreed. and i think it's lovely that you invited cousins who will be in the area. i'm sure they are thrilled.