Courthouse wedding or wedding wedding?

A courthouse wedding is a proper wedding and it's pretty offensive to say otherwise.

If you think you'll regret not having a large wedding, wait until you can afford it and plan one.

Wait it out and start saving now

There are a few users on here who had GORGEOUS courthouse weddings.

Do yourself a favor and don't go into debt over one day. Google courthouse weddings and see what comes up

@LindseyO I'm just quoting what a proper wedding is according to my parents. I'm considering a courthouse wedding. I think they're more intimate. Didn't mean to offend!

There was a courthouse BAM this week or last week - and it was amazing.

Amazing weddings happen when you carefully plan, and care about each other, and care about the guests you invite whether it's 2 guests or 200 guests.

I would absolutely love to elope. I would do it tomorrow and lose all my deposits if FH agreed. Sadly, he will not.

Depending where you are, I have to brag that california have amazing city halls and court houses that are under $500 to elope with you photographer as your witness. If you Google san francisco city hall or Santa Barbara courthouse, you will see beautiful weddings done that are intimate. Again, depending where you are, you could fly to CA, hire a photographer and get married for under $2000

If my parents weren't helping out so much, we'd be married already and would've had a simple courthouse wedding. Would I be sad that I didn't get to have a big ordeal for our special day? Yes, definitely, but I'd be married and done with it by now, without stress or a large hit to our bank accounts, plus we'd be working on having a baby by now which is something we're really looking towards doing ASAP. But you have to weigh the cons on both sides. For me, the cons of a large wedding are that they take so long to plan and cause a lot of stress, and they are expensive AF. To me, I'm not sure which outweighs the other.

You have to sit down and really weigh out what is more important to you. Maybe do a T-Chart and give 2 points for things that are really major to you that you'd miss out on, and 1 point to things that are important to you, but not major that you'd miss out on for both sides. Then tally up your points and make your decision.

I always wanted to elope somewhere tropical, just me and FH. But we have two kids, so that isnt possible.

Instead we are having a small wedding for just family. I'm happy wih this decision.

But we did decide that for our 10 year anniversary we are going to have a vow renewal and do it the way we originally planned on getting married.

I understand exactly what you mean. I taught about the court house wedding as well. My fiance wants a big wedding. We are saving and help from my mom. I picked my date 01/20/2018. Do not do anything for people, do what is best for you and your family.

Don't miss out what you want because you're in a hurry. That said, courthouse weddings can absolutely be wonderful. Just make sure it's what you actually want and not a means to an end.

Im having a nice reception at a country club and doing a courthouse wedding beforehand. We dont want a ceremony because there are too many religions in our families so instead of being careful and offending anyone, we will just skip it! Thats even with my mom offering to pay for the ceremony, flowers snd music if we agreed to marry in a Catholic church. Since we dont feel it in our hearts to do so, we said thank you but declined

Celebrities Kristen Bell and Dax Shepherd had a courthouse wedding. They looked quite happy.

I'm actually envious of the courthouse weddings I've seen on here. If I could convince FH to do one, I'd probably already be married with pictures of a beautiful courthouse wedding. However, if a smaller event isn't your thing, then save up for the bigger party.

I say do what's right for you and him. If you are set on having a big wedding give yourselves two years so you can pay things off and try your best to keep a low budget.

My FH and I are doing what I'm calling a hybrid wedding and renting a house large enough for immediate family for the weekend and my dad (who is getting ordained for this) is going to marry us there with immediate family and a wedding party - it's more intimate and ultimately what we can afford - I totally agree with some previous commenters on here sit down and do a pro/con sheet for us having money for our future together (kids, house etc) was way more important then saving up and waiting for a traditional wedding! But everyone is different pick what is right for you and your FH, not anyone else and certainly not what you think you "should" do

You could always do a courthouse wedding now, since it's what you can afford at the moment, and for one of your anniversaries do a large wedding, more of a vow renewal, if you still want one. That's how my brother and sister in law did theirs. They are having a "wedding wedding" for their 10th anniversary.

View Quoted Comment I agree with this. Quite offensive. I would have more regret over debt.

View Quoted Comment Agree with this. It's also offensive to say that the legal elopement can/should be ignored after you have one in order to call the big reception afterward your 'real' wedding despite the new trend in doing so.