What are your ladies thoughts? I always told myself I would only get married once and here I am engaged I have considered a commitment ceremony instead of an actual legal ceremony has anyone on here done that or thought about it? What is everyone's thoughts? Is it just a waste of money to not actually be legally married or is it ok to have a commitment ceremony instead of a leagl marriage ceremony. I am on the fence on one hand I think well that's kind of a waste and on the other hand I feel like it's a good option because I didn't ever want to be on a "2nd marriage" and then on the other hand I think "well am I cheating myself?" What do you ladies think?