Commitment ceremony Vs. Legally married!

I'm having a commitment ceremony myself there different reasons people have them like religious beliefs or financial I'm in the state of Texas so in order to have a commitment ceremony a promise of legal marriage has to be made but we also still have common law marriage I'm doing it this way not because I'm scared but I'm on SSI disability and it will affect my income and his and we can't afford to lose anything financially I know this sounds harsh but we have agreed mutually on this but we want to get married so bad so we decided to pledge our love and commitment to each other biker clubs do this also because not just any woman can live the biker way so they have commitment ceremonies as like a trial run for marriage I hope this is helpful but do research for the star your in

I'm seriously considering this ONLY because of a looming bankruptcy on myself

I totally get it!!! I've been married 2x divorced once widowed once. Have reconnected with an ole Jr high flame and and we've been talking commitment ceremony. He's never been married, my late husband and I were hit head on and he was killed and disabled me. I'm afraid ill lose my ssd if I remarry. But I'm also wanting to keep my son's last name and mine the same. So torn on what to do. I love him and want to sp3nd the rest of my days with him. So I understand the fence riding undecisiveness

Im doing a commitment ceremony for alot of reasons in June. My bf and i been together for 10 yrs. We both been threw bad marriages. Its a celebration of our life together and many more to come. Why does it matter if its legal or not. Why wouldnt any friend or family member not want to come and celebrate your lifes together? Its a great salution for us. People are reading to much into this alternative for some people. I find it somewhat affensive if someone choses not to attend because its not legal binding.

I have been married before and divorced. I have met a wonderful man who I love with all my heart and to me a commitment ceremony is so much deeper and passionate, to know that you and your best friend feel the love for each other from the deepest part of your soul. To get a piece of paper from the court saying you are married is all about money. Lets be real if you love each other you dont need a piece of paper to tell you this, you already know deep in your heart this is the person you want to spend the rest of your life with. Go for it girl!! Have a beautiful commitment ceremony and a wonderful celebration after. God Bless You!

I totally get where your coming from. My boyfriend and I both said we would never get married him ever and me again. We love each other and have though about this idea very strongly. To us the legality in it just brings us up a tax bracket. No big deal. It's the states way if controlling love and commitment. Marriage a long time ago before man made it "legal" was just that a commitment ceremony promising yourself to that one person for the rest of your life under the God you serve. In God's eyes he don't see that paper. That paper was man made. Js. I say go for whatever it is that is going to make y'all happy and if that's a wedding without that piece of paper hell yea.

I think the concern, I know for myself is that it is not so easy to get out of a marriage, legally as it is if there is nothing legally binding you. Of course you go into it with the idea that marriage is forever, but the truth is, you just don't know for sure.

I have been in a relationship with a man for going on 2 years, I have been divorced over two years. He has been married twice and me once. We are committed to each other but don't really want the government involved, plus we are older, have already had children (which was a big reason for getting married the first time) plus our social security will be affected if we got married. It seems right to have a ceremony to show the love to our family and friends and although we aren't getting married we are committed to each other.

View Quoted Comment Hey did you ever go through with this??? I want to do the same and just wonder how the ceremony can be. I do want it like a wedding but I do not want to deal with government and legalities around our money or business or our past(student loans, etc). How did yours go??? I want to be married for God, not the government.

Can I change my name legally if I have a COMMITMENT ONLY marriage?
Do I get a certificate at th he ceremony??

I've been with my Fiance' for 20 years. We had always planned to get married, but something always got in the way, mostly money situations. I'm now 65, and on SS, and Medicare. If I get married, I would lose my benefits, due to the fact that I would have to claim his income, and he can't afford to pay for my medical, he can't even pay to have his own. So this is why I want to have a Commitment Ceremony. I want it to be blessed by a Minister, or Pastor.

Hi, second wedding here! I never wanted to marry again to be honest, not because of having a second marriage but because i didn't want to go through all the badness of it all.

I understand where you are coming from and to be honest... what is it that you want? Do you want to make it legal and go through the paperwork or keep it simple and sweet? Not saying that marriage is bad or you shouldn't do it. That is entirely up to you and your significant other.

Sit down, talk to him and come to an agreement. I can understand you're scared and that you are afraid to go through all the crap again, cause i am scared as all hell as well but i know something for sure, i know my fh is different. He has shown what his true colors are and he has proved time and time again that he loves me and that he would never intentionally hurt me. I am completely sure of that, and that is why I'm not afraid to marry him. And even so marriage is such a scary thing...but you can do it, if you want to do it, you can do!!!

I'm sorry I'm all over the place but ... i understand

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I agree, that was a harsh statement. If she wants the party, she has the right but I'm sure its about celebrating their love. There's something about having a sentimental celebration that makes it's more official and expressive. It's the same reason why couples who get legally married have a wedding...to celebrate and express it to their loved ones. Furthermore, a legal marriage doesn't make you more or less committed than a non legal marriage in my opinion.

I'm doing a commitment ceremony first and then getting legally married at a courthouse early next year. We're moving so we decided on a commitment ceremony for my family and friends and then to legally get married once we're settled in our new state next year.

My fiancé has been married twice already. Both of his marriages ended because of something that his wife did. I knew that he wasn't sure if he ever wanted to get married again when we first started dating. I told him later in our relationship that I would be more than happy to just do a commitment ceremony. Eventually we decided to do the whole wedding thing but I'm glad that we talked through what we were feeling and thinking at the time.

Heyyyy!! QUESTION (but stay focused)...
Pros/Cons of legal marriage VS pros/cons of commitment ceremony (non legal union)
Can anyone answer with FACTS instead of opinions? I am curious on the topic as well.

View Quoted Comment If you do get legally married, you should get new document if you don’t want your spouse to be the one who makes decisions for you. A marriage often voids previous legal documents of that nature.