Coffee- Yay or Nay?

I'm sort of late to the party here, but I've never been to a wedding that didn't have coffee/tea service with dessert. I would definitely miss it it I went to a wedding that did not have it. You may be surprised how many people who aren't normal coffee drinkers are thrilled for a cup with dessert because dessert and coffee go together so well, or they want it to spark that second wind for more partying/driving home. I would do what I could to include it.

Not only have I never been to a wedding without coffee, I have never been to any type of event (especially work events) that don't include coffee and tea. Just pay for the damn coffee.

Also, k-cups are awful for the environment and you are just going to have a long line of unhappy people trying to get coffee.

I'm sorry I just LOL'd. I get it though! I would definitely have coffee, I can't see why that would cost so much?? Any venue I visited coffee was included just like soft drinks and water.

I personally expect a cup of coffee at a wedding (or any event) during dessert. The weddings I have been to have all had coffee and tea service with dessert.

We're having an actual coffee stand, with 2 baristas at our wedding so people can have coffee or whatever coffee drink they might want. We are coffee fiends, and so are lots of our family and friends. I can't imagine any party without coffee.

What if you order a carafe/box from a local coffee shop or a Starbucks and then just place on a table next to bar with cream, sugar.

I'm shocked that coffee from your bartender would cost that much

Most of the wedding I've been to have a coffee tea station around dessert time. My venue provides it. How much can coffee possibly be? Did he give you an actual quote or just try to talk you out of it?

OMG this is a thing? I've never seen coffee either but maybe I just wasn't looking. Our venue kept highlighting that they had all these different types of coffees and teas. We were so confused. We were like: Why would that matter if the wedding is at night? I guess now we know haha.

I don't think a Keurig or a regular coffee machine is a good idea. What about those big, heated automatic dispensers they have at work conventions? They seem to keep things warm for ages. Unless you're having a giant wedding, one of those would last the night. You could have one with hot water and a little tea box beside it.

I'm with @jorocka... There's always coffee at events! Every wedding I've been to has them, and it's standard at my venue. They even have a table reserved for it.

OP, pay for coffee. I don't think it's going to get as wasted as you think it will.

I think if at all possible, cut another cost? Maybe ask if FMIL would be willing to help you out financially with it?

We had tea, coffee, and a hot chocolate station at my wedding. Spring for it. How much can it cost in the grand scheme of things?

I've never actually been to a wedding with coffee served. Possibly a regional thing?

Alison, I've been to weddings in CA, TX, SC, FL, GA, VA, MO, CT, and MA. I don't know of a single one that didn't have coffee. It's not a regional thing. It's a wedding/event thing.

Tell her to pay for it

The coffee is included for us. I would just pay for the coffee honestly.

If you haven't seen coffee at a wedding, you weren't looking, or you've never been to a wedding. Every wedding has coffee with dessert.

How much is it costing? Mine really isn't that bad, it's about $1 per cup. I wasn't thrilled since coffee costs like 10-30 cents per cup to make so it's like a 70-90% upcharge. I called my mom about it and she tried to tell me people wouldn't notice and it wasn't necessary. I do agree that some people won't notice and some will notice but won't side eye you not having coffee. For me, coffee with cake is one of my favorite things at weddings. I would absolutely notice if a wedding didn't have coffee and I think it's nice to offer it with dessert. However, I wouldn't side eye anyone or be upset if they didn't have coffee at their wedding. I would be kind of sad that I can't have coffee with my cake but it wouldn't be that big of a deal. I'd just go get a glass of wine instead. If it isn't outrageous, I would just pay for it. You haven't said how much it actually costs so hard for me to say if I feel like you should just suck it up and pay for it or if it's really way too expensive for coffee. I do think many people will notice if you don't have it and more people than you would think would enjoy coffee with their cake. I don't think many people would really be upset at you if you decided to skip it though. Also to note, I've seen a few people say it's an older person thing to want coffee with dessert. I'm 24 and I've been drinking coffee since I was 12 (at that age, it was mostly a cup of creamer lol now I drink it black). I would notice not having coffee at a wedding probably since age 18. I don't think it's an older person thing. I think it's just some people love it and some don't.

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Tell FMIL to pay for it if she wants it. I have never seen coffee at a wedding. I doubt most people will want it.

Our menu includes Coffee and Tea.....

Honestly I would just add it.... is it that much more???