Co-ed bachelor/bachelorette party?!

WW cracks me up sometimes. Only people on here would get so freaking upset and offended the way a complete stranger intends to celebrate a freaking Bachelorette Party.

OP My FH and I enjoy each others company as well and have no desire to spend it apart celebrating (as someone else said above) the last time we are single? Thats reason to celebrate? Actually, to us, we are celebrating getting married.. we are hardly excited about still "being single" but I guess priorities are different to others. But thats the cool thing about this free world, we are all entitled to our own interpretations and opinions and shouldn't be shamed for wanting a co-ed party.

ANYWAY that to say, how we are celebrating is me and my girls are going to dinner and drinks, then we are going to a wine sip and paint class.. He and his guys are going to a place called "flying tee" its an indoor enhanced golf place (best way I can explain it) that has drinks.. then dinner.. then we are all meeting at a casino that is filled with a Jimmy Buffetts Margaritaville and other bars to join parties and end it with each other.

Lastly, Girl, do you!

@tara, No one is "offended" by the way she chooses to celebrate her Bach party. They are simply trying to tell op that it is always a "no no" to plan your own party. Posters on here couldn't give a shit about what she ends up doing, it is, after all, her wedding. What they do give a shit about it being a good host and trying to help posters avoid faux pas. Posters that may seem "harsh" are really just trying to make you understand the reality of your decision. That is all. Take it or leave it, welcome to the internet!

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I'm not a fan of combined parties. FH and I generally go out together to parties with friends (duh). i liked that the bachelorette was something special with just my girlfriends.

Exactly! This IS the internet and surprise, not everyone wants to do things the same way you would want to.. so get over it and move on, dont let others get you so worked up because they want to have a co-ed bachelor/bachelorette party! My points exactly so thanks for clearing that up Whether you think the ideas are "shitty" or not. Lol! Absolutely hysterical. Dont get your panties in a twist over. a. complete. stranger. Not specifically to just this thread, im talking about about 100 threads a day.. its really entertaining. Are we amidst the Wedding Planning Gods? Sometimes I feel like it.

Personally, I prefer attending a separate bachelorette party. I don't perceive a bachelorette as your last night to be single, but it is a rare opportunity to have time with just your friends minus FH and his friends. Also, it has been my experience that combined parties occur when one or both have trust issues. The two combined parties I have been to have also been disappointing for the single members of the BP.

I initially came on here to ask advice about throwing our own engagement party/get together because our families had not offered to throw us one. I searched first and read the comments. I ultimately decided not to do it because if a majority of the people on here would side eye me for it, there is a chance at least one of my guests would too.

My sister did hers in Vegas with her husband. There was 36 of us and we had the best time ever!

I have been to a co-ed bach party in Vegas and it was fun, BUT they didn't plan it, the wedding party did. It was a complete surprise to the B & G.

People who say your bachelor/bachelorette is your last night to "be single" make me want to pull my hair out. The last time you were single was a long time ago...before you entered a committed relationship with your soon-to-be spouse. I hate bachelor/bachelorette parties, can you tell?

Tara C, nobody is getting upset over the combination bachelorette/bachelor party. People are telling op that it's a shitty idea to host her own party and have other's pay for it with the intention that the less they spend on this the more they'll spend on wedding gifts. Direct quote.

@Sarah M, if you're engaged you're not single. I never understood this concept.

OP the only thing i feel is very rude is the part where you state you will get a bigger gifts if they dont plan the bachelor/bachelorette. I mean i didnt have a wedding to get gifts, i didnt know people thought that way.

@starwarsfan2016 i feel its always taken out of context, it means before being married. I have been with my FH for 5 years and we have our own house and raise kids together. We are very together. I still find it very different from being married.

I must say this thread was entertaining on a Friday morning. Thanks all! lol.

I do agree tho... In the end, its YOUR day. Do what you like!

I can't believe you seriously said you're hosting because you want them to spend more on your gifts. How utterly classless. Good luck with your party OP!

1.) Yes people have got upset at her for wanting a co-ed party.. and threw shade at her, I believe calling it "clingy"?

2.) Which one of you WW keyboard warriors made it tacky to be apart of planning a bachelorette party? How is it tacky to lay out guidelines on what she and her FH for THEIR parties? Re-read her comments.. she directly says at least 5 times she wants to do something affordable for her friends because they were already investing so much to be in the wedding. All I know is, if I didnt give my MOH some sort of idea of what FH and I wanted to do for our parties, I'd be balls deep in a male strip bar LOL.. not my scene. We wanted it low key so we made that clear. Does that make me tacky? If so, than so be it.

Lastly.. im just now seeing the "for bigger gifts" comment.. and I honestly cant support that kind of thinking, as your wedding shouldnt be about that.. but I also see where she says multiple times she wants to keep her party affordable (hence coming here for advise) on her wedding party since they were so invested in her wedding already, money wise. So pretty contradicting statements but I dont know her, so not going to judge her.

I came here to answer her advice on the co-ed party question and laughed when I saw, as usual, people getting worked up, flagging eachother.. its not that serious for crying out loud. Can we all agree on that? Laugh it off yall and go out and enjoy your Friday for crying out loud. Sheesh.

My FH and I were going to do this because we have a large number of crossover friends. My MOH and BMs nixed this and we are just hanging out at some bars. Have fun though

Tara c, wouldn't her friends better be able to determine their own budgets? If they were planning the party then they would be in complete control with how much they spend. With op planning it she tells them how much she thinks they should be able to spend. I don't actually consider that considerate. And there's a huge difference between saying, no strip clubs versus, i want my bachelorette to be a weekend away on the beach at this hotel and we'll go to these restaurants.

I'm absolutely baffled by the facts that a) you're planning your own party and b) you're doing so in order to receive better wedding presents from attendees. In absolutely no universe is that even remotely considered okay, no matter how chill and non-traditional you and your friends are.

Anyway, I went to a bachelor/bachelorette weekend getaway in the mountains and it was nothing but DRAMA. Combining couples and friends who may have different ideas on how to celebrate with a lot of booze during a stressful wedding planning process is a recipe for disaster.

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KSquared. OP literally came here and asked for ideas on what to do.. stated multiple times she is trying to make it affordable and local.. mentions how she is in Houston if anyone has advice for that area specifically. Never mentioned a weekend away on a beach in a hotel with all these restaurants.. lol.. but okay. This is what im talking about. Now you're making up things that never ever were mentioned.

I agree with @Jacks here. You're a newbie, and so you assume everyone not sharing your same opinion is rude. It's just life, you're on a public forum opening yourself up to people's opinions. And believe me there are rude people on here,who do go out of their way to be rude. But that is not what was being done to you. Jacks is giving good advice, the least you can do is consider it. And for fucks sake please do not go around letting people in your personal circle know you're doing it this was for more gifts... THAT'S rude. Good luck to you

As others have said, you don't plan parties in your own honor!

That being said, its fine to have a coed party if that's what you prefer! I've only been to one coed bachelor/bachelorette party (and I've been to probably a dozen bachelorette parties). It worked out well for the couple because pretty much everyone they wanted to invite was a couple! We went to Atlantic City for the weekend. On Friday night, everyone hung out together at one of the lounges. On Saturday night, the girls got all dolled up and went out to dinner then out to a club to dance, while the guys gambled at the casino and then we met back up with them later in the night. It was fun!