Co-ed bachelor/bachelorette party?!

You can't actually tell people to leave your thread. That's against the Community Guidelines. You might want to review those, when you signed up you agreed to them. I'm going to need to flag your post for review.

@Lindsey O - That will be so relaxing and fun!!! We don't have a pretty beach near Houston, so no beach for me! Lol we will, however, go on a cruise for our first honeymoon (right after the wedding) and then Cancun on our second (summer 2018)!!

@Jacks - You also agreed to them and insulted me, so I almost flagged you.

I actually did not call the OP that at all. I said that when people do as she's planning, they may look like it.

See the little star in my avatar? I am around to make sure that the posters here follow the community guidelines. Feel free to flag my post though.

You can't call people rude though.

@Malei - I don't even know you and I love you!! Lol I almost flagged it! My FH encouraged me too haha I'm trying to be less petty , but this Jacks person is making it hard! Thank you for being so sweet! I almost deleted the app because of rude people like this one. You convinced me to keep it, and ignore them.

Aisha, once again, I'm not being rude by not agreeing with your plan. It's OK that people think differently from you.

Please keep our Community Guidelines in mind when posting; remember that it is acceptable to criticize ideas, but you may not criticize another member.

Yep. ^

I flagged it. Haha! Also stated that it seemed offensive and the star should be taken away because it makes the system look disgraceful. I wasn't going to until she pointed out what it was so I had to because it was hypocritical.

@Malei - They took my comment away because he/she flagged it. Lol but it's okay for their "policing" members to basically harass you for having a different opinion. Makes total sense. Not.

Malei, I'm going to leave the thread now, as I see that I'm not being helpful. I've been here on this site a long time, and have seen many posters come and go. I'm really not bothered by what you choose to say about me. Disagreeing with someone's idea is not being demeaning to them, and I stand by my opinion. The mods are here now, and any further comments that are against the community guidelines will be dealt with.

@Aisha Yikes. Then I guess I'm the one that has to learn about etiquette on here. I guess it's allowed to discourage in a demeaning way, as long as you don't directly call the person that demeaning thing. It's like passive aggressive bullying. Whatever. Anyway, didn't mean to commandeer this post. Ultimately, I don't think you were rude at all and I completely understood what you were trying to say instead of taking it literally like some seemingly rude people. I said "seemingly" so it's legal, right?

@Malei no need to apologize! I've enjoyed your company! Lol and exactly. Passive aggressive is what I see these ...people...do. And my thing is, if your job is to make sure everyone follows the guidelines, why even comment? Why not read the comments in the forums only. Why make yourself known? Are they even getting married? So many unanswered questions. Lol but I want to thank you again for being so sweet!

Np. I had to hide my first discussion and even changed my username because I was so discouraged and felt ashamed for posting my questions/ideas. But then there were people out there who stuck up for me in the thread and weren't quick to judge or question... and actually had answers to what I asked! Those opinions are the ones that really matter.

Honestly, it sounds like we have the same personality and outlook on how we want our big day to be (I summarize it as "practical"). No need for all that unnecessary stuff that can lead to unnecessary drama.

Sincerely, @Aisha, best of luck to you and congratulations! I could see us being friends in another (or past) life. Haha!

ETA: by the way, I've only been on this thing for about a week so I'm still sensitive to hurtful people, as you can tell. Haha! And, as a small victory side note, her comment was removed, as well.

@Aisha, It is rude to plan your own parties when you're the guest of honor. Nobody was rude or demeaning to you, they gave you feedback, which is presumably what you wanted since you posted here.

This doesn't make any sense. Wouldn't your friends better know their own budgets and how much they're able to spend than you? Do you have access to their pay checks or bank accounts? Are you involved with their bills? If they plan it themselves then they have 100% control in how much, or little, they spend. You getting involved and taking their budgets into account doesn't help them any more than if they just planned it and decided on their own what they could afford. And you saying, the less they spend on this party than the more they can spend on wedding presents IS gift grabby.

In lieu of a bachelorette party, my FH and I are doing a couples pub cycle through downtown!

Also, flagging comments strictly because they don't agree with your ideas is not how this works.

This is the internet. Real live strangers who don't know you and don't personally care about your wedding, giving you unbiased, honest, blunt opinions about your ideas... which is why you posted here, right?

You won't find validation for rude, tacky or offensive ideas here. This is not a support group.

Tradition and etiquette are not the same thing. If you want to skip the traditional garter toss, being "given away", or wearing a white wedding gown, have at it. You'll find plenty of support for those ideas here. Some posters on this site are crazy creative. But you aren't gonna find support for plans that come across as tacky, such as planning your own bachelor and bachelorette parties with the end goal of bigger and better wedding gifts- you aren't entitled to a bachelorette at all - if someone plans one for you, you graciously accept.

Blunt advice is not rude advice. @Jacks was not rude.

Hard pass on combined parties! Regardless on whether or not you're all friends, this isn't a night out or a house party... it's your bachelorette!

You all take this shit way too serious LOL. No reason to ever flag a damn post. This is not that serious and WW is not the bible when it comes to planning a wedding. Do whatever makes you and your spouse feel good. Anyone's opinion on what you do doesnt matter, as you will probably never see these people in person.