Clinking Glasses and How To Kill Them?

@VC - LOVE the dice game idea! At least then it can be a little more interactive and not just an expectation that we kiss on demand. Super neat.

This is something that you're not going to have any control over so don't even stress out about it. I had a friend try it twice at my wedding. First time was during dinner and I politely gave her the finger. The second time I wasn't even in the room so I just popped my head in and blew her a kiss. She got the hint and stopped doing it.

Our guest clinked glasses twice during the whole dinner. People were too busy chatting to really bother. Don't make it a big thing and no one else will.

@Lori, I am already concerned about it. Our back up plan is to have his brother (12) take him up to our suite until the reception is over if he can't handle it. He's ok in large open spaces with noise (theme parks), just don't know how he'll do in a ballroom.

Plasticware is how I'm fixing it.

I heard or read somewhere about giving the DJ slips of paper with various couples on it, and if the clinking starts, the DJ picks a couple's name out of the bowl and then that couple has to stand up and kiss.

I've been to one wedding where it happened a lot. The couple just quit kissing when glasses were clinked and everyone got the hint.

The glass clinking well annoying in my experience is unavoidable. I would suggest making guests have to do something to get you to kiss (not just clinking their glasses) like O&S & VC did. Either your crowd is going to be really into it, or they'll let it die. I've been to weddings where people have to sing a song with the word love in it or tell a story to get the bride & groom to kiss. I love the dice game.

Ugh, I'm with you!! I never heard of this until FH and I went to a wedding in Michigan and it was practically an entire night of clinking glasses - it was terrible. I feel like it may be a regional thing because I had never heard of it (I'm from the east coast) so hopefully it doesn't happen at my wedding but I will definitely be annoyed if FH's family (all from Michigan) starts clinking!!

Thanks! They're common in Manitoba I've seen people use a makeshift wheel-of-fortune, a Jenga with the things to do in the wooden tiles, a card deck (people draw cards with different stuff), and a "plinko".

This seems like an awful lot of thought about something that could easily be ignored. And when it is? It'll go away....

It's not as bad as some people make it out to be. It happened 5-6 times during our dinner. Take a half second to kiss your husband, then go back to your food. Plus, it's an excuse to kiss him :-)

There was one couple that every time the glasses started clinking, they drew a table number out of a hat and two people at that table had to kiss before the bride and groom.

I also went to a wedding where they announced they weren't kissing for glasses, but they had a donation jar for a charity and then when someone donated, they kissed.

I feel like either way, they will clink glasses. It's a tradition.

I think it is kind of rude. The plastic utensils would be hilarious. We plan on doing what Sharron and Brad suggested. The donating money thing I don't like.

We actually didn't have any clink their glasses. Maybe because we didn't have a seated dinner (tapas, passed foods, desserts...) or silverware.

I say this as a warning: glass clinking is my husband's FAVORITE thing to do at any wedding, and absolutely nothing will stop him from doing it. He has been known to clink things against windows when all other options have been removed. He LOVES it.

Just go with it. I think it's a cute tradition and don't understand why so many of you hate it!

My guests can "clink" all they want..FH and I won't kiss for it. It drives me nuts. Hoping they'll just stop after they realize we're not doing it.

I've never heard of this or been to a wedding where this has happened. But, if you're worried you can always go for a nice, hard plastic and then no one will ever know.

I have never been to a wedding where this happened, but I love the poem, story, song idea. ^^

At the last wedding I went to the MOB started clinking her glass after the B&G sat down to eat. The bride didn't understand the tradition, asked her mom what she was doing, and simply shut it down with "I'm trying to eat"

There was no more clinking.

ETA: This is a dangerous tradition because sometimes people can also break the glassware, and you would have to pay the catering company for the replacements. I'm not fond of glass clinking.