Clinking Glasses and How To Kill Them?

I've never heard of this until today

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Ugh I hate it too. .like nails on a chalkboard to me. ..unfortunately no ideas about how to stop it

I have never been to a wedding that did that. Just politely ask your WP to let people know. I don't think this is that NORMAL. I also feel like the WP would start it, so if they know you should be ok.

This must be more of a problem in other social circles. At the weddings I've been to share this happened, it only happened once or twice the whole night. People were too busy dancing to worry about making the bride and groom kiss.

You can't control your guests unfortunately. I say do it once or twice to appease your guests but then just shake your head. Your guests will get the hint that you don't want to do it. I've only been to one wedding where no one clinked glasses...because the bride decided prime rib should be served on paper plates and drinks in plastic cups at a country club reception. Yep.

The DJ I plan on booking this week makes a game of it that either will make the guests not clink or it'll be clinking all night (depends on the crowd). Anyways they call it the copy cat kiss game. After the first round of clinking, the DJ announces the rules. Every time clinking starts up, the DJ will call out a random couple in the crowd that must do something wacky (like a funky dance or something) then kiss. The bride and groom then copy the couple.

Normally I'm a lurker on these forums, and this may not be an ideal solution, but I thought it wouldn't hurt to throw it out there.

I've been to a few weddings where little bells were provided to ring rather than clink. (I'm not sure if this helps if you don't like the shrill-ness of the clinking). Another wedding opted for "fancy plastic", but I wouldn't necessarily advise that. I've also been to a wedding that required a table to stand up and sing a line or two from a song about love. You'll still have some people who clink, but there are other options.

Hope this helps.

I just ignored the one person I heard doing it, but we only had one, and I've never ever seen it before ever.

Just don't kiss when they do it. Eventually they'll get the hint and they won't do it.

One of my friends provided small bells to ring at her wedding instead of clinking glasses. Maybe you could do something like that?

Every single wedding I have gone to people have clinked their glass. I find it really annoying. At ours people did it once or twice and we kissed and moved on. We weren't sitting in our seats very long so people didn't really do it. Usually people only do it once or twice which I think is fine.

One wedding we went to the couple said anyone that clinks their glass has to go up and kiss in the middle of the dance floor and the bride and groom have to act out the same kiss. Safe to say only 2 people did it because no one wanted to go up there and be that couple. (It was the parents of both bride and groom that clinked)

The last wedding I went to, the DJ made an announcement that anyone who clinked their glasses would receive plastic utensils. It worked, people laughed, but refrained

I haven't seen it often but was at one wedding where people did it All. Night. Long. It did get old super fast, but I'm not really sure what the protocol is for getting people not to. Maybe if you just don't kiss when they do it they'll catch on?

I hate this too. and its not just the sound that annoys me. If i want to kiss my husband, I will do it of my own accord and not to entertain my guests idiotically banging their utensils against their glassware.

fortunately, I havent been to a wedding where this actually happened since the 90s. my mom loves to embarrass me though, so I told her if she does it or encourages anyone to, we will simply ignore the clinking. sorry not sorry.

I HATE that and have already told my friends and parents and anyone who will listen that if they do that I will never speak to them again (not really obviously, but I make my hate for it very clear). Plus I think it's creepy and weird. Why would people be asking to see other people kiss? I'm far far from a prude, but I don't need to see my friends kiss, or my old parents or relatives, or anyone I'm physically in the same space with! Why do they feel the need to make us kiss on demand when they want to see it? Ew.

We turned it into a game. I bought a pair of big foam dice, and we made a "kissing menu". If people wanted us to kiss, they had to stand up, come to the front and roll the dice. Depending on the number they got, they had to do something, and if they did, we kissed. About 10-15 people rolled the dice at the beginning of the reception and it was a lot of fun. And afterwards nobody else rolled the dice (or clinked glasses)

I hate this, too. FH saw somewhere (Pinterest), a cowbell on something like a shepherd's hook with a sign for people to ring it for a kiss. People can't just sit at they're seat, they have to get up to do it.

My concern is FSS is autistic and doesn't like like loud noises. I don't want anyone going over the top making obnoxious noises (glasses clinking, bells ringing, or cowbell) and upsetting him. Dealing with a meltdown at our reception is not on my agenda.

I was at a wedding where the couple refused to do the glass clinking kissing. This just made people clink them even more, just to be "funny" (i.e. annoying, lol). I guess it did die off in the end, but it was really annoying for like half an hour

Kimi, I think you might want to consider that a reception, in a busy noisy room, may have other possible sensory triggers than clinking glasses, unfortunately. Not that there's anything wrong with fighting the clinking -- it just may not be the only potential source of stress for FSS. Good luck.