Changing Shoes after the ceremony and pictures

I don't see anything wrong with that. I bought 4.5 inch heels for the ceremony and plan on switching into some cute flats or sandals afterwards. I don't think I would last the whole time in my ceremony shoes.

That's what I said....

I think you should make FH wear a pair of heels for a couple of hours LOL men just don't get it but no there is nothing wrong.. I am giving each of my girls a pair of fast flats to change into whenever they like after the ceremony and pics of course.

I think it just depends on the person. I wear 4 inch heals everyday so I am used to them. I would feel out of place with flats on.

If I wasn't used to wearing them, I'm not sure what I would do.

Maybe tell him he has to rub your feet all day the next day and take you to get a massage?!?!?!

@Victoria....lmao...I love that idea. My FH and my mother both feel the same way, "Ladies do not remove their shoes in public." I am also wearing 4.5 inch heels. I am sneaking a pair of ivory isotoner slippers or buying a pair of flats. There is no way I can dance in my shoes.

He says the alternative is that he's not going to make his guys keep there vest and ties on all night either...

I wear heels all the time and wouldnt feel right in flats or sandals. Flip flops to me are not wedding appropreiate. I plan on wearing my heels the whole time and my girls will do the same. We will find comfy heels tho, but I would be mad if I saw them in flip flops, but then again their dresses show their shoes.

I should just end this conversation with him.... because he wont notice you are absolutely right

I would make sure you're even allowed to wear your heels on the golf course. Most places won't let you.

Oh, yes, Keep in mind that your dress is going to be altered to your hieght with the heels on. So when you switch to flats, you will have extra dress dragging.

ANd yes, he probably won't even notice what shows you are wearing, and if he brings it up again, ask him what's tackier, BM & Bride in flats, or barefoot with their feet covered in dirt and booze off the floor? (not saying barefoot is tacky by any means, but it would probably make him change his mind!)

Mmmm thats a good point

Hahah I'm with Victoria! Really though, just tell him "ok, you're right, whatever" and drop it. Then buy the girls flip-flops if that's what you want to do, and stash them somewhere in secret the day of the wedding. I'm sure he won't notice.

I can't believe I'm in the same camp as peoples' FHs and mothers, but since my Bat Mitzvah/Sweet 16 days when everybody used to take off their shoes to dance in their pretty dresses and SOCKS, I find myself *needing* to stay in my shoes all night because of how stupid I thought everyone else looked in their socks. Obviously flats and flip-flops are a different story, but now my brain is programmed that way.

I'm only wearing heels for the pictures. But everything else I'm wearing flats or a small heel because my fiancé is the same hight as I am

I don't see anything wrong with it, I'm changing into ballet flats for the reception. I like your idea of getting flip flops to change, I'm sure they'll love them.

Nothing wrong at all, I'm making sure to get my girls low heels so they'll be a little comfy, but they know at the reception they are more than welcome to change to flip flops. I'm wearing 4 inch heels for the ceremony and 1 1/2 inch heels for the reception lol

I also love Victoria's idea of making him wear them... I couldn't say that last night because he was reading over my shoulder... thanks ladies... will just have to not talk about the shoe thing again.... but if I see him looking at people's feet at the reception I'm going to have to die laughing.

I didnt "change" shoes during the ceremony.... I simply just did not wear shoes at all. I wore shoes for formal dances, after that, they came off.... I wanted to be comfy while dancing

I've already told my girls that after the pictures they can put flip flops on. I don't see anything wrong with it - none of us are heel wearing girls.

I went to a wedding last year where the bride had cute baskets of flip flops in their wedding colors next to the door of the reception. ALL the ladies that attended the wedding (not just the wedding party) were invited to take a pair and wear them at the reception and then you got to keep them.

With my BM's I asked them to have the same color shoes, because I have seen pictures where they have all kinds of different shoes and it does not look good at all. But I told them find a shoe that its comfortable and you can spend the whole night in. My dress will cover my shoes and since we have the ceremony outside, I am wearing wedges. But I am taking other shoes just in case and my FH, I just explained I want to enjoy the whole night and if I don't need to I wont change my shoes but at least I have them with me.

FLIP FLOPS FOR ALL.... I love the idea of a basket of them